Children are a great happiness. Dream of them, in advance choose for them names and represent whom the kid will resemble. But something can seriously sadden this joy. If in family there is already one child, then he can be negative to emergence in the house of one more family member with which from now on it is necessary to share not only toys and delicacies, but also attention of parents. Why the child is jealous of younger how to fight against it?
How to struggle with children's jealousy of the newborn
First of all, parents have to try to explain to the senior child as younger is defenseless. It needs care and the help. Parents can tell what responsibility laid down on their shoulders with the advent of the small child. Let the senior child will participate in care for the younger brother or the little sister - helping parents, he will spend more time with them and, without noticing that, will become attached to youngest. It is impossible to forget to thank at all, otherwise the child can think that he is used. The children's offense can end is deplorable. If the senior thinks that he in family is not appreciated and ignore, then he can do harm to younger.
It is impossible to establish categorical rules which will only push away the senior child from younger. Parents should not shout, forbidding it to embrace younger or to take it on hands. Yes, the child senior still can also not calculate the forces therefore parents should explain that the help to parents, gentle strokings, but not rough expression of feelings will be the real manifestation of love for the younger child. Parents should be more careful in words, to select them more carefully.
Asking a question how to struggle with children's jealousy, it is important to remember what cannot be done differences between the senior child and younger. If the kid wanted any toy which belongs to the senior, then it is not necessary to demand to give in a categorical form small everything that he wants. The senior child has to have toys, at younger and the general. Parents have to teach children to politely ask each other personal belongings, and to use the general in turn.
The senior child should not suffer from lack of attention. Of course, appearance of the second child in family is connected about emergence of a large amount of new cares. But it is necessary to find at least one hour a day which will be devoted to exclusively senior child. Parents have to explain that appearance of the new family member will not affect the attitude towards him in any way, love it also strongly. While mom walks with the younger child, dad together with the senior can play, esteem or just talk. If family incomplete then the grandmother and the grandfather can come to the rescue.
Not only parents should not do differences between the senior and younger child, but also other family members and also friends. If guests want to present a gift to the younger child, then there has to be something and for the senior, otherwise it is better to give nothing at all. Children are very subject to influence of strangers. If guests play only with the younger child, to speak only about him, to praise highly him in every possible way, then the senior can feel unnecessary, ugly, silly, unloved. It will become fertile soil for development of complexes in the future. If parents notice that guests at a conversation give preference to one of children, then they have to add, as the second is not worse. And, of course, to confirm it with some fact.
The world in family completely in hands of parents. But psychologists note that the more in family, the risk of emergence of jealousy is less than children.