The man convicted of treason is worthy a valuable lesson from the woman betrayed by it. Before beginning to work, it is necessary to choose the correct strategy and to estimate all possible side effects of your revenge.
Reasons of treason and methods of punishment
What should be made with the apostate? First of all, analyze why there was a treason, maybe, there is also your fault? For example, having married, you ceased to watch yourself, were completely dissolved in life, lost identity? Or, on the contrary, you were so keen on work what forgot about the spouse, his desires and interests? The reasons of treason there can be great variety and, of course, not each of them will be connected with your misses and mistakes.
Anyway, the fact of treason is available, and it is necessary to punish strictly the traitor, and how severely you will deal shortly with him, will depend on degree of his and your fault in the incident.
One of methods to teach a good lesson the apostate – to show genuine indifference to it. Remember that you – the self-sufficient free woman, forget for a while about life and work, indulge yourself: you go to beauty shop, buy the subscription to the pool or the gym, sign up for any interesting courses, for example, of autodriving, find a fascinating hobby. Your interests should not focus especially on the husband and his problems. Let it know that you will not suit a showdown with a beating of plates that you are higher than it. At first your indifference can please the apostate, he expected scandal. Then will begin to touch – really it is so indifferent for you? Most likely, it will even have thoughts that you have a lover. But that it is also necessary to you: let suffers, is jealous, worries! Under different pretexts or without them refuse to the apostate intimate proximity as, however, and in other pleasures with which you before him kindly presented. Having got used to perceive as due your care, the traitor has to understand that now it should prepare, to erase, iron shirts, etc. for himself independently. Remember that you and your feelings roughly neglected therefore you have now the right to take the most drastic measures. Learn to be independent in everything, show to the man that you perfectly cope with all affairs and without him. But if you really need the men's help with the house – to transfer something heavy or to repair the crane in the bathroom, ask your friend or call the master on the house. If the traitor carried out these obligations for the house earlier, your act will wound his male self-esteem. Options of revenge there can be great variety, the choice concrete of them, certainly, for you. But it is worth thinking of consequences before, for example, bringing the lover or to throw mud at the spouse before his friends and colleagues. It is unlikely someone to another will like to be used by you as the tool to sweep and pass for the troublemaker who is taking out problems of personal character on people, not really pleasantly, isn't it? Try soberly to consider, estimate and arrive everything as the reasonable woman who did not give in to splash in emotions.
Whether the divorce is necessary?
You should not hurry with a divorce if in your family there are children. Perhaps, your husband will manage to draw the correct conclusions and to estimate all degree of the moral damage caused to you. If thoughts of a suicide come to your mind, immediately reject them, to swallow of poison and to lay down under the train because you were changed by the man, very silly, ridiculously and recklessly. If all of you cannot forgive the traitor, and the divorce is inevitable, your life, happy, independent of the ex-husband, filled with various interesting events, communication with friends, professional activity will be the best revenge. Besides in your heart surely there has to be a place for new – true love!