Many children's problems which are not solved in time can influence considerably in adulthood process of self-realization of the person. The child remaining in private with the fears becomes disturbing. To overcome this constant uneasiness quite difficult. It is better not to allow emergence in the head of the child of inexplicable fears.
Instruction
1. Sensation of fear in itself is useful. It helps to avoid many troubles: the fear of pain will not allow to put a finger to the hot iron, to lick a metal tube on a frost, to cross the road on red light; the fear of troubles stimulates people to reach compromise with each other and so on. In a word, the fear is an inseparable part of an instinct of self-preservation. The fear arising from time to time – it is normal, but when it constantly pursues the child - it is sign of the increased uneasiness which makes life a misery to both the child, and his parents.
2. According to statistical data, every second child from two to 9 years has unreasonable fears. In this period the kid already knows a lot of things, but many phenomena to it are still unclear. The violent imagination is imposed on this mix explainable and inexplicable, creating the representations which often do not have nothing in common with reality. And happens, as parents add fuel to the fire: frighten the child by a babayka who can steal him. Can also be the reasons of unreasonable uneasiness: tension in family, ignoring by parents of needs of the child, his questions, the increased control and so on.
3. The task of parents is to notice sensation of fear in the child in time and to dispel all his doubts and also if necessary to correct own behavior. Otherwise not to avoid complications. Maturing, the child will strike up hardly new acquaintances, will be constantly depressed. His social apathy will become a considerable barrier on the way of its self-realization.
4. It is possible to help the child with a situation of the increased uneasiness. Rituals can save business. For example, the most part of fears is connected with laying in a bed. In case the child is afraid to remain one, it is necessary to start an accurate ritual which will repeat day by day: at first send it to wash, brush teeth, then put on him a pajamas, read the fairy tale and wish good night. Do not turn off the light if the child asks. Before laying track that the child calmed down in time, all outdoor games have to be finished for a couple of hours to a dream. You do not feed him before going to bed – the organism has to have a rest at night, besides the filled stomach can become the reason of nightmares.