Possibly, you noticed that take away a toy from your child, and he because of it cries, without doing anything. It is a high time to think of teaching the child to stand for themselves. But, at the same time, it is worth remembering that each child has the temperament therefore for some children to hit back – norm, and for others – a short step through himself.
The most important is not to go too far. Often parents, especially fathers, recommend to the child to beat with the first. Such council can destroy communication of the child with peers and will definitely not teach the kid to stand for itself, the child with reputation of the fighter will hardly make to himself reliable friends. To school from it parents will avoid and to take away children, and at school it will have also problems with the teacher.
Besides, not all children accept such method of the solution of problems. For example, if he initially does not like to fight, then he will not begin to ask more for the help of the parents advising to fight back, and will begin to hide from them similar situations, saving offense at everyone and everything.
For a start it is necessary to learn his vision of the situation and degree of its obizhennost from the child. It is quite possible that incident for it remained unnoticed at all, and parents try to inflate from this incident of a problem. In that case it is not necessary to focus attention of the child or to insist that it someone humiliated, all situations on which parents and children focus attention, look absolutely in a different way.
How it is possible to help the child? At younger age of the child it is necessary to protect most, not to go too far and try that near the child there were always kind children. Try to teach the child to express discontent with a phrase like "It is ugly to fight, at us so nobody does because nobody is on friendly terms with such children". It is extremely important that the child did not save offense, and uttered it to offenders. Watch a game and, as necessary, you take away the child on safe distance.
If a talk does not help, suggest the child to pinch the offender next time. Harm will not be, but the child will understand that it can stand for itself(himself).
Also there is a sense to give to the child to sports section that it had more confidence in the forces.