In each family the methods of education of children. Some parents practice a joint dream with the kid, others, on the contrary, categorically against it. And the first and second options have the right for existence. In the matter it is worth relying on the general family state. If all it is comfortable at any given option of night rest, then the made decision is right.
Pluses of a joint dream
Most often till the birth of the kid the parents are firmly convinced that the child with pleasure will snuffle in the bed. However after several sleepless nights the tortured mom takes away the child in the bed, and all next nights pass much more quietly.
If the joint dream allows to have a rest and get enough sleep to the child, mom and all other inhabitants of the apartment, then you should not neglect this option. Besides the kid mom has a set of daily chores. And if she does not get enough sleep at night, in a month instead of the loving wife and mother there will be a tired, overdriven, nervous woman with the same nervous kid. Chest children very strongly feel mood of the mom. One of many pluses of a joint dream of mom and the kid consists in it.
In the first months of life the child needs constant presence of mother. He has to catch its smell, beating of her heart. The kid has to understand that he in safety. And at option when the child sleeps together with mom, this requirement is satisfied for 100%. The dream of mom becomes the most sensitive, she catches movements of the baby, hears how he breathes in a dream. The woman gets a lot of positive emotions when her kid sleeps nearby. It is so pleasant to embrace a native warm lump. There is an assumption, that at a joint dream the biorhythms of mom and child begin to coincide that is also plus and facilitates life both to mom, and the kid. If the woman had to come early to work, then the joint dream helps to fill the shortage of communication. Well and at last, since thermal control at newbornsof is not debugged yet, near the mom the kid will never freeze.
Minuses of a joint dream
If the child sleeps peacefully separately, waking up time or two in a night to be supported, then it is worth being glad to such combination of circumstances and to enjoy a separate dream. The main minus is a fear of young parents to press down the kid in a dream. You should not be frightened it since the maternal instinct will not allow mummy to do much harm to the child. It is worth being afraid for the kid in case the woman is in alcoholic or drug intoxication. In this case, the child it is better to put in a separate bed. Fathers, of course, are less sensitive. Therefore it is the best of all to put the child from mother. At a joint dream it is difficult to parents to adjust the private life. It is the fact. But also here it is possible to find a way out. It is possible to find new interesting places for sex. It is worth dreaming up. Parents worry that the child forever will remain in their bed. This fear is also unjustified. The child after three years needs personal space, the place of a privacy. Having used it, the kid can be transferred almost without serious consequences to a separate bed or even to the separate room. Some consider that in a bed of parents to the kid to sleep unhygienically. Actually, when breastfeeding flora of mom and child coincide. So in this question it is worth following some elementary rules. So far the child absolutely small, it is worth enclosing under him a diaper. At more adult age the need for a diaper disappears. To choose what option as much as possible is suitable for your family, it is necessary to weigh all pros and cons. The main thing to listen only to those who live together with you in one apartment, but not those who "know everything better than others".