Education of the teenager hard, delicate business. Therefore it is necessary to get acquainted with widespread mistakes which parents often make.
Instruction
1. To implicitly submit to parents, to carry out everything them requirements, means for the teenager to recognize itself as the child therefore he will protest, do in every possible way everything counter to parents. The teenager refuses to accept persuasive councils, and to especially follow direct instructions. It is impossible to force the teenager to fulfill your requirements and furthermore to punish for disobedience. During this period you learn to agree with children.
2. It is not necessary to try to be in the opinion of the child ideal people, without shortcomings. Do not pretend as if never made mistakes and you do not understand that such violence of youth. On the contrary, you share personal experience with children. Tell about various situations connected with your youth about difficulties which met and as got out of current situations. So it will be easier for children for you to trust, realizing as far as you is similar to them and are capable to understand and support.
3. As excessive control of private life of the teenager is inappropriate, and you should not ignore the child's classes completely. Performance of the formal duties is not enough, for full education of the teenager. Parents constantly have to form norms and moral values in order that the child did not look for them out of family. Communicate with the child, participate in his life, unostentatiously direct him in the necessary direction.
4. You should not sponsor excessively the child, to try to satisfy in time all his requirements and inquiries, to seek to save him from all possible problems and difficulties. The teenage period, time when the child enters adulthood and to it it is necessary to learn to overcome obstacles independently.
5. Too drastic measures of education, rough punishments even for small offenses, badly affect teenagers. Thus, negative attitude to adults, active attempts to rebelliousness and opposition is formed. In the future such children grow up in cruel, unbalanced men.
6. If in family there is a small child, it does not mean that the teenager needs to be perceived as absolutely adult personality who is not needing care and attention. Emotional rejection from parents makes the teenager closed, unsociable, the child saves offenses which expresses as open aggression later.