If scoff at your child at school, it is important to treat it seriously and to interfere quickly. You and teachers of your child have to work together to stop mockeries
Mockeries at school
If scoff at your child, he needs a lot of guardianship, love and support as houses, and everywhere where there is a mockery. Your child needs also to know that you will take measures to prevent further mockeries.
Conversation with your child about mockeries
If scoff at your child, one of the best ways to help it is to listen and to talk. It is a good way to learn more before talking about it to the teacher.
Here is how to begin:
Listen: pay to your child all the attention and think of talking in the quiet place. Ask the child simple questions, and then listen to answers. Try to tell something it seems: "So it happened further?" and ""What you then made? ""Keep calm: it is chance to show to your child how to solve problems. If you feel anger or concern, wait until you calm down before discussing a situation with the child. Summarize problems: you could tell something it seems: "Means, you sat and had dinner. Then Igor approached, took your food and threw it through all dining room". Let your child know that normally to be upset: help the child to understand that his feelings normal. For example, "It is not surprising that you so are sad about it". Make sure that your child knows that it is not his wine: for example, "It would not occur if you did not wear glasses and Igor, perhaps, was upset because of an incident, but it not justification for it".
The following step shows to your child that you care and will help:
Agree that there is a problem: for example, "it not normally to act with you this way". You praise the child: to tell you about mockeries, it can be hard for your child. The praise will induce it to continue to share problems with you. For example, "It is very pleasant to me that you told me about it". Let know that you will help: for example, "It seems that everything was bad. Let's think of some things which we could make to correct a situation". Avoid negative comments: for example, "You have to stand for yourself" or "Oh, the poor thing. Do not get into the head".
And if your child understands why some children scoff or intimidate, then it can help him to understand that it is not his wine. For example, you can tell the child that the hooligan perhaps:
- copies other people and does not know that mockeries - it is wrong
- does not know how to behave well with other people
- has a problem and thinks that if other people feel bad, then it is good.
Work with the teacher of your child to deal with mockeries
If scoff at your child, as soon as possible ask for the help the teacher and in school of your child. Schools very seriously treat mockeries. Schools will be always concentrated on protection of the victim. Your first step is to talk to the teacher in a class of your child . Besides, your child needs to know that you work on a problem therefore surely tell him that you talk to the teacher about it. Here is how to work with the class teacher of your child to stop mockeries:
- Find time to talk alone to the teacher.
- Quietly represent the problems as a joint problem for both of you. For example, "Oleg says that Igor beats him during a lunch, calls it by last name and speaks to other children not to play with it. I wish you helped to learn what occurs and what we can make with it".
- Discuss a problem with the teacher. Ask opinion of the teacher.
- Be persistent, you do not become angry and do not accuse. For example, "Yes, children sometimes tease. But I think that the child was not just teased. I think that it was more serious".
- Finish a meeting the plan of how the situation will be resolved.
- Keep in contact with the teacher.
What if does not your child want you to talk to the teacher? Your child can be against your conversation with the teacher. It is important to listen to problems of your child and to look that you can make that he did not worry. For example, you can register in enrollment of pupils when other pupils with smaller probability notice it. But, after all, you are the best person who knows that he is equitable to the interests of your child even if it means involvement of the teacher.
If mockeries do not stop
If mockeries do not stop even after you talked to the teacher in a class, nevertheless it is safer to work with school. There are some further steps which you can undertake:
- Keep account of what occurs and when. If mockeries involve physical harm or damage of property of your child, you can also take pictures. If it is connected with cyberintimidation , make screenshots of posts on social networks or text messages.
- Write a note (call) the school teacher that mockeries still continue.
- Talk to the principal.
- Ask to show the procedure of consideration of complaints at school.
- To discuss this issue with school council.
- Address to Department of Education.
If your child still is exposed to mockeries, and you do not think that the school does enough to stop them, you, perhaps, should think of search of other school. If the aggressive behavior is excessive, it is possible to look for the help out of a school system.
What your child can make to cope with mockeries
If scoff at your child, you always have to interfere, but your child can also learn to cope with mockeries when it occurs. It can help him to cope with any future mockery or negative social behavior. It will also help your child to feel surer and less helpless concerning mockeries. There are several ideas and also ways to explain the ideas to your child:
Tell the hooligan that that stopped: "The quiet attitude towards hooligans allows them to understand that what they try to make, does not work". Avoid places with a high risk: "If you steer clear of places where there are mockeries, you can avoid a meeting with hooligans". Be near other people: "If you remain with the friends, the hooligan will probably not disturb you. Or you could remain in a brisk part of school where there are teachers". Ask other children about the help: "Other children probably understand what you pass through, and can help you". Tell the teacher: "Your teacher can help to solve a problem. The hooligan can even not know that the teacher helps you".
Support of your child of the house
Houses your child needs big support and love while you and the school teacher work on stopping mockeries at school. Instead of always asking questions of intimidation, you can ask more general questions, for example, "What part of your day was the most cheerful?" Professional support can sometimes help your child to cope with mockeries.