To be capable to bear all teenage performances, it is necessary to be ready to them. As they say:" One man is no man ". Therefore article to you in the help, dear parents.
How to communicate with teenagers
Certainly, to communicate with teenagers very difficult. But to refuse and just to try to communicate less, being afraid of impudence and mistrust, much worse. A talk is one of ways when process of education and education can effectively proceed.
First, know, do not talk to the child about his appearance : that he or she many times dyed hair, the broken-off jeans and other similar things to which teenagers take extremely seriously. It is their style, means to prove to be, and not to change it. You speak on other, more important and interesting subjects.
To begin a conversation it is possible to use cunning. Begin a conversation accidentally, for example, when you eat in the car, you eat, you clean up the house. So you will avoid usual caution. To keep trust of the child, do not abuse it during the conversation. Build a conversation according to the scheme: "and kind of you looked down in this situation...?" To liberate the child give an example from the experience.
Be persistent in those situations which you consider very serious which touch upon such subject as health and safety of the child. Do not try to prove something to the teenager if you know that he already angry or tired. Give him time to oklematsya. You do not shout at the child if he irritates you. The child will respect you only if sees that you respect him.
What else do parents need to know?
The size of the applied forces which parents spend for education matters. The moments when the child is the one and only meaning of life or on the contrary when pay it attention only in the most urgent cases, I will make of the child of the independent person capable to make the decisions.
To the parents responsible for education of teenagers, it is important to be judicious and capable to expect all possible options of development of the situation.
Parents have to know features of teenage age and also what their child needs.
Process of education has to be arranged under personal qualities of the teenager. Parents should adapt to constantly changing character of their child.
From the first it seems that all distinctive features of teenage age promote isolation of the child from family, but it not so. Teenagers have a huge need for that the immediate family constantly contacted to them. The spirit of parents is so important. If the harmony and love reigns in family, then your child will be much quieter in a family environment.