The questions mentioning the conflicts between children students and their parents are especially relevant today, children, becoming actually adult, still depend on the parents that creates many problems in communication between them.
In the period of students the people prefer to spend time with the peers, thereby removing communication with parents as it is possible further. Usually influence of parents on children students is already very strongly limited, they are not able to check life of the child any more as it was earlier. The main source of such problems is that parents do not understand inner world of the child and are mistaken in its values, experiences and aspirations.
It is very often possible to hear from the son: "They do not hear me at all". Parents do not wish and are not able to listen to the sons, smugly believing in own life experience.
Parents, you remember that the son student in relation to you can have three negative reactions: refusal reaction, that is insubordination; reaction of opposition, that is demonstrative acts of negative character; isolation reaction, that is aspiration to stop communication with parents.
Even despite such obvious opposition, children continue feel some need for your support. Perfectly, if you is for your son a friend, as a result of your joint activity the deep spiritual and emotional connection is formed. It is necessary to find ways of maintenance and establishing contacts with the son, he wants to share the experiences and to tell about events in a day.
But, on the other hand, very strong guardianship can deprive of your son of independence and ability to use freedom that will increase opposition between you.
The young people satisfied with communication with the parents differ in special ability to independent assessment and the analysis of people of the circle of contacts.