Mother and the father are two dearest and close persons in the relations the parent child. Only in the bosom of the family the person can fully share problems, brag of victories or tell about the defeats. But that such cordial relations took place, it is necessary to bring up the son or the daughter from the very beginning correctly. How not to allow difficulties in communication with the child? How to keep cordial relations between the parent and the kid at any age?
How does the modern child see mom and dad? If to ask this question directly to the child, it is possible to receive approximately following answer: "Mom – the person who always is near. She feeds, erases, removes, plays, bakes, buys sweets, brings up". And without problems performs several operations at the same time.
What the kid sees dad? Complete antithesis to mom. There is never a dad the house, he always at work, earns money, comes late and abuses when you do something is not right. And life of dad of the house comes down to rest: to reading newspapers and viewing soccer. The father is not perceived as the friend, the friend, the native person. It somebody coming, performing retaliatory functions.
The child not always understands that mom and dad – equal parents, it's not just that dad all the time at work. Here plays a role and the father's relation to education of the child in the first years of life. Quite often young fathers answer a question of their role in education of kids so: "Let will a little grow up, with it we will go to a garage to repair the car, to play soccer or hockey for now let mom with grandmothers are engaged".
The child feels it and understands. Further it will surely affect the relations of the adult child with the father. The lack of communication of an infancy always leads to more cool communication in youth, at the child the affection for dad is not developed, there are difficulties in communication and mutual understanding. And no joint campaign in a garage or for soccer cardinally a situation is changed.
Unfortunately, in our mentality the manifestation of fatherly caress in relation to the kid is not put. It is very seldom possible to see dad not simply going near the child down the street and holding him on a lap drawing together or admiring the first children's victories. That more surprising dad on a morning performance in kindergarten looks. Even if the holiday takes place on the day off, then there it is difficult to drag the father.
One business, when the reason for that need of dad to earn, and the only exit – to vanish at work all day long. It is objective reality from which anywhere not to get to. Though such fathers should find time for the relatives. In such family mom is forced to perform functions of the parent for two, means it grow twice heavy. But there is also other case. When the parent considers that to be lisped with the kid not courageously and below men's advantage.
Choosing, how exactly you will raise the kid and what is the time to give him since childhood, remember that it will surely affect your relations with the child in the future.