Despite abundance of various methods of education, parents can make widespread mistakes. Try to avoid them that also you, and your child became happier, and your relations - are stronger.
Instruction
1. To demand from the child of full and unconditional obedience. Thus you oppress his personality and do not teach critical thinking. Think whom you want to grow up, the personality or the robot, the strong person or the obedient soldier. Reason the decisions to the child, support requirements to obey arrangements and rules.
2. To forbid too a lot of things. If something is impossible for the child, explain why what consequences can be. And better show how it is possible to do, but not as it is forbidden. For example, it is impossible to draw on wall-paper, but it is possible in an album. If the kid very much wants to draw on a vertical surface, then it is possible to hang up a roll of paper or old wall-paper on a wall, let draws on them. Try to forbid only really dangerous actions, for example, to play with sharp objects and to approach a plate. When there is too much bans, the child ceases to perceive them.
3. Not to learn, and to demand. For example, on age it is time for your child to put on independently. You give it things and say that he put on them, motivating it with the fact that dressed it many times, and he had to remember an algorithm. And it is necessary to work so: at first to dress the kid, pronouncing, what are you doing, then to do it together, helping the child, then he puts on itself, and you watch and if necessary prompt. Only when you made sure that the skill is imparted, leave the kid of one with a task.
4. To be changeable. It is clear, that both circumstances, and mood change, people not automatic machines also are different in various days. But concerning the principles of education of the child there has to be a constancy. If today something is impossible, and tomorrow it is possible or when mom forbids, and dad resolves, it can destabilize the child and take away from him feeling of reliability and security. This feeling comes from constancy of parents.
5. To develop talents and abilities, but not character. It is necessary to place emphasis on personal qualities, and knowledge can be acquired at any age. Besides, it will be easier for patient, persistent and sure child to comprehend any subject and to be engaged in creativity.
6. To care only for feelings of the child. It is necessary not only protect his soul, but also to watch correctness of his behavior. If on walk the child takes away a toy from another, and mom allows it that the kid did not cry, it is wrong. When the behavior becomes such, it needs to be adjusted, but not to think of feelings. Present what the kid will grow up if you continue in the same spirit. He will consider that all have to it.
7. To abuse for a disorder. At first check whether not too there is a lot of at the child of toys. Perhaps because of their domination the kid cannot keep order. Make sure that each subject in the nursery has the place that the kid knows about it and that it is easy to return all toys on it. Pay attention to yourself: whether you put all things on the places whether you keep order or you clean up occasionally.