In the first year after the delivery the woman experiences serious psychological difficulties. Very often she is pursued by persuasive fears and desires. Usually it occurs if childbirth was the first. Something torments young mother all the time and does not let to it know happiness of motherhood.
The first that most of all torments young mom - it is fear for life and health of the baby. The woman is afraid that to it there can be something that she because of the inexperience can make something not so, it will only be worse. Sometimes the woman is afraid that the child suddenly ceased to breathe in a dream that it will fall from a bed.
One more problem is an insuperable desire to remain one, to hide from relatives. Such desire can be splashed out in relation to the husband and other children in the form of irritation. The woman is very often irritated because of each trifle, from it various conflicts with the husband appear. Sometimes the father of the child does not refuse to the feasible help in education. It seems to the woman that she cannot bring up the child.
All these reasons also pour out in a postnatal depression. It is connected with the fact that the woman is ashamed or afraid to admit the fears, she becomes isolated, to it there is a depression. There are several ways helping to cope with such depression.
If the child sleeps nearby, then you should not stack him in other bed, it is quite possible to put the child with himself though pediatricians of it do not recommend. But if it is so really best of all for the child, for mother, then better to do so.
While the child is on breastfeeding, it is not obligatory to feed the child on hours at all as many doctors advise, it is possible to give a breast on demand, so you will save nerves to yourself and the baby.
Ask the help for the family, for parents, for the husband. Do not hesitate to ask for help, especially if you are inexperienced in education of children.
Walk with the child more often. It is optional to drag with himself a carriage all the time, it is possible to do it in a baby sling. You should not become isolated around one child. Find time for yourself, meet friends, get pleasant emotions from hobbies.
Do not abuse visits of children's policlinics. Especially if the excessive suspiciousness is your line.
Young mom is very well influenced by an opportunity to be alone at least hour a day therefore relatives should understand about it.
Do easy exercises. It will help you to keep composure. Let free time will be devoted not to house efforts, and itself. If there is an opportunity to go to a travel, then you should not refuse it. Usually babies very easily transfer change of climate and long travel therefore you should not be afraid to take the child.
It is better to refuse communication with those people who give advice eternally, especially if these councils irritate you.
Surely make care of yourself an important and everyday stage. The child needs healthy, cheerful, well rested mom therefore find time for yourself. It is not necessary to give all itself to education of children, it is important that you felt perfectly.