It is time for early youth. All processes on reorganization of an organism already come to an end, the teenager becomes more balanced and tactful so the relations in family are improved.
Together with the increasing independence, many young men and girls already earn at this age, contributing to the budget of family. The amount of attention which the teenager pays to a subject of love and the relations with an opposite sex increases. The basic rule here is not to interfere with intimate life of the child, giving it from it (or it) to determine by the partner development of their relations.
That you should make:
1. To lead with the child a discussion on the sexual relations, diseases, died contraceptions (to begin to touch upon this subject it is possible and it is necessary already when the child is admitted to elementary school). Yes, the conversation can be awkward and difficult, but it is obligatory. Let the child know that he can always approach you and ask any question.
2. On examples to explain, than early pregnancy is undesirable. You can remember mutual friends, news on TV and so on – everything will approach.
The choice of a course of life becomes also important question. From it the young man is pushed (or the girl) at decision-making, this choice will become the center of rotation of interests of the teenager.
Entering early youth, the child almost completely finds independence and independence. Now he already possesses some self-checking and understanding of – from here and the increasing interest in literature and philosophy. He makes concrete plans for the future – idealized dreams and desires settle in the form of quite clear and achievable images.
The area of interests of the school student – as figuratively, and in the most direct extends: together with new knowledge the teenager finds also new acquaintances – sometimes very far (it is on friendly terms with pupils of other schools, the cities, meets the working people).
Time which the teenager spends on communication raises. Actually, almost all the time, what it has, it spends for communication with peers and acquaintances. Actually, the role of parents gradually decreases.
Well and the last that should be mentioned, depressions are. From 14 to 18 years of a depression are rather frequent and especially dangerous as teenagers are inclined to dramatize everything and sometimes decide on terrible acts: suicide, murders, familiarizing with drugs … From you it is required not to allow it and to provide support to the child. In general, if from the earliest age to teach the child to trust, then the similar periods become almost painless: your son (or the daughter) itself can tell about the problems and ask the help or council.