To a degree all parents face children's hysterics. For someone this behavior of the child – a single incident, and for others – a constant problem. It is important to understand mechanisms of its emergence and methods as to cope with it most effectively. Often recommendations to parents of rather children's hysterics come down to simple council "not to pay attention". But in practice everything is much more difficult.
The children's hysterics is the heaviest emotional splash which is followed by shouts, crying, many children rush on a floor, knocking hands and legs and also being curved in a back. Parents in such situation are often lost and do not know how it is correct to behave. In such state the kid cannot control himself and the emotions. The reasons at a children's hysterics are different: the child did not receive desirable, strongest frustration because of any failure, etc. Among recommendations for parents the most frequent – not to pay attention to the child's hysterics. In reality everything is not so simple.
Really: the bad idea – to give to the kid what he so emotionally demands. If he receives the desirable as a result of a hysterics, then will remember such behavior as one of ways to try to obtain the. As a result the child will go into hysterics more often. When there is a hysterics, the parent needs to collect all the forces to remain quiet. Own rage quite naturally arises in similar situations, but does not help the child at all.
If the kid tries to achieve tears something, it is obligatory to leave his one. The less will be the audience, the quicker he will calm down. Helps to change scenery also: to leave shop, to pass into other room, etc.
Even when the occasion already ceased to exist (the family left shop where the child demanded something to buy), the kid is independently not able to remove emotional pressure. Happens that the children's hysterics happens in situations when the little person because of what strongly is upset: the toy does not understand, it is impossible to put a pyramid as there is a wish. To help to calm down to the child – the parent's task. To allow to drink, wash cool water, to hold strong, without allowing to twitch, for example. Each mom knows that she helps her child to come to the normal state quicker.
Emotions to the child should be lived, splashed out, but not too long. If the children's hysterics drags on, then his nervous system is exhausted, the mentality of the kid gets to a vicious circle: the more the child cries, the it is more difficult to stop. Councils of the psychologist come down to what to rush at once it is not necessary to calm, but also you should not delay with the termination of a children's hysterics too.
The kid has to understand that mom did not stop loving him at this moment that she maintains intensity of emotions. Then he will gradually learn to transfer them, to cope in more adequate ways. If the parent in a situation of a children's hysterics splashes out the irritation and rage, it does not help the kid at all.
Generally recommendations for parents which often face children's hysterics come down to 3 highlights: not to follow the tastes manipulations of the child, to reduce the number of the viewers and to help to calm down.