You notice that your child often is in dejectedness, lost any interest in life, ceased to smile and prefers to a bowl loneliness, than communication with peers. These are the first signs that your child has some problems. They can be various, but anyway they should be solved. And the best way is to talk about them to the child and to give to it the correct advice.
The most often found problem – your child can be offended at school. And as you understand, the child will not tell you about them at all. How it is correct to give to him advice in such situation?
Do not ask your child about it directly at all, and observe him. Unwillingness to go to school – the first sign of the negative attitude towards your child. It is necessary to approach such problem from hitretsy. You can tell accidentally a story about how you or your schoolmate were offended at school and as you or he got out of this situation.
examine the movie with your child or read the book where there is a main character at whom scoffed at school. Perhaps, such way you will promote the solution of such problem. Advise the child, to register in section which will allow the child to break barriers but under any pressure do not force it to go there where he does not want. There your child will be able to get new friends, to become more self-assured. It will help it to solve the problems at school.
If it did not help, then it is already worth talking to the child directly. Advise yours to the child to change the direction of behavior: if scoff at it, and it reacts to it, it only incites to further attacks from the offender. Instead of usual tears, the child can just not pay attention to mockeries or answer the offender with words – "Well and that?" such non-standard behavior will puzzle the offender and will help your child to control a situation. Try to provide to your child at most of communication with schoolmates. Allow it to invite them on a visit, organize various celebrations. It will help children to become friends.
The second most often found problem at children – communication with peers. We can often hear such words from mummies: "To my child difficult communicates with other children. Will not you advise what to do?" You never paid attention to that how often you communicate with the friends. Are possible, you see their once a month.
You should not be surprised that your child with anybody does not communicate: habits of parents affects the child even if you do not want it. Change: you go with the child to friends, walk with him in the park and you strike up new acquaintances. There is still a set of the reasons of small sociability of the child. But all them can be solved, following the instruction provided further. The first that should be made is to allow the child to become responsible, to understand that count on him. It can be intolerable, watch as your child acts at random. As a result what better, only the child can solve. The sympathy is a direct way to understanding and support of the child. While the pity can aggravate situation only. It is more comfortable to much to communicate face to face. Help the child to smooth the relations with one person.
Be ready to put easy pressure in case your child lost in himself confidence of the beginnings of to be sorry.
Tell it a story from life as you got acquainted with any given person. Never force the child to be on friendly terms with that with whom he does not want. In case he appeared under the influence of the bad company, you should not insist on the termination of relationship at once. Point out to it negative qualities of the companions better and provide to him to solve: to continue communication or not. There are a lot more situations in which the child will need the correct and wise advice.
But it is necessary to be able to direct your child easy. Take the following councils into consideration. First of all, ask whether the child wants to accept council. If he wants to hear, will answer "yes" if the answer "no", you do not be imposed. Give it the chance to feel control over a situation. Respect opinion of your child. Before giving to the child advice, listen to his point of view, maybe, it already has ready exit from developed situations. If he is wrong, you can always object him. Give to the child time for reflection over your words. If he does not answer you, it does not mean yet that he ignores your words. Always mark out merits of your child. It will make him stronger more self-confidently. If to focus attention on its weaknesses, the child will become closed and uncertain.
Listen to the child. It is possible that he already has the decision, and he does not need your councils. I hope, now you will be able to understand your child in the best way, his problems, and to give in due time the correct advice.