Pregnancy, childbirth, joy of new life, feeding, sleepless nights – young parents have enough impressions of the first child with surplus. But there passes time, the child grows up at first from the first romper suit, then already and from shirts, and mom gradually begins to think: whether time for the second kid came? How it is correct to understand that the organism of mother is ready, and the first child rather adult and independent to bring the second?
Instruction
1. The second and subsequent pregnancy and childbirth take place, as a rule, more simply, than the first. But it is not an occasion at all to get the second child at once after the birth of the first. Nevertheless incubation of the kid very strongly exhausts the woman's organism, it needs time to be restored and return to normal. However when planning the second pregnancy it is necessary to pay attention not only to needs of a female body, but also to psychology of the first child when for it it is the most comfortable to get the brother or the sister.
2. Pregnancy in 1-2 years after the child's birth. At this time mother's organism was not completely restored after loading, but this difference between children meets most often. Some mothers just cannot longer wait as they want both to have children, and to do career therefore long be in the decree to stay at home do not agree. For children it is very good difference too – when stair-steppers grow up, they most often keep close connection with each other and better are on friendly terms, than children with a big age difference.
3. However in the psychological plan of mother it will be difficult to raise two small children at the beginning. And for the first kid at first will be unpleasant a surprise that mom is occupied at all not by it, and the new baby as the child at such age does not understand that it is necessary to share and does not know about brotherly or sisterly feelings.
4. Pregnancy in 3-4 years after the child's birth. It is the most comfortable term for mother's organism. Its complete recovery happens just in 3 years after the child's birth. The first kid already grew up and got stronger, he is independent, as a rule, goes to kindergarten and a lot of things are able. Besides, at this age children already understand that they want the sister or the brother, treat them kindly and even begin to help mom with care for the kid. This ideal time for appearance of the second child.
5. Pregnancy in 5-7 years after the child's birth. In the physiological plan the incubation and the birth of the child takes place also well, as well as in the previous period. The organism of mother is still rather young and strong though fabrics already and forgot for such period of time about loadings and lost some elasticity. The first child usually well perceives replenishment in family: children at this age, especially girls, strongly copy behavior of women, are ready to care for the kid and can even do it quite independently. Boys at this age already begin to understand the principles of male behavior therefore also they become good assistants to young mom. Besides, this period for the birth of the kid is good also the fact that when the first child goes to school, it mom, but not the empty apartment will be able to meet houses.
6. Big age difference between children. Similar cases not so often though recently women began a thicket to decide on late pregnancies meet, and the difference between children can reach both 10, and 15, and even 20 years now. Late pregnancy, of course, not really positively affects mother's organism. Besides, there is a risk of the birth of the child with pathologies. But at the modern level of development of medicine the risks can be minimized, the main thing that the child was desired even if also unexpected.
7. The relations with brothers and sisters at such difference are very ambiguous. Common interests at such children can not be at all, and, teenagers can very jealously and negatively react to emergence in family of the new member. However then, when the kid will a little grow up, between children there are very cordial relations senior and younger.