The family at which it is impossible to bring the child thinks of adoption sooner or later. But the adopted child – not a toy and not experimental for an experiment. Being going to take the child from orphanage, be ready to some difficulties.
Collecting necessary documents becomes a stumbling block at the initial stage of adoption often. Many couples refuse the decision on the adopted child, without wishing to spend nerves for paperwork.
Stock up with patience and do not stop thinking about the planned purpose. To adopt the child, you have to confirm the capacity as the parent: to fill out the questionnaire, to submit the marriage certficate (preference is given to married couple, than single parents), certificates of existence of housing, work and stable earnings, lack of criminal record and a serious illness.
The form of acceptance of the child in family can appear one of problems. There are two forms: guardianship and adoption. If there are no official certificates on absence of parents (the resolution on deprivation of the parental rights, the death certificate), then care of the child can be temporary – guardianship.
In the presence of documents the adoption is authorized, that is the child becomes the full member of family. Guardianship can sometimes turn into adoption if official information on insolvency or the death of the real parents appears.
The main difficulties come when the child grows and develops. Serious illnesses which could not be detected at an infancy stage can be found. Think whether you will be ready to spend all forces and finance in case of detection of problems with health of the adopted child.
Also at the child the character and the opinion is shown. Having noticed bad habits of adoptive fumes, parents in horror begin to think: "Ah, it all in the mother addict!", etc. However any habits can be eradicated if it is correct to bring up the child.
At adoption of children 2 years are more senior there can be problems with adaptation. The child who saw enough of violence and scandals in the real family can be frightened any rustle, change of voice intonation, etc. However sincerely loving the true parents (what those would not be), children sometimes cannot get used to call foreign people "mom" and "dad". Do not demand unconditional recognition you by parents at once, on it can leave several month or even years.
Remember that the repeated refusal and return to orphanage can put to children's mentality a serious trauma. Your patience, love, care and readiness for burdens of family life will become the strong base on which you together will construct happy family.