We got used to forbid children very many things. It is much simpler to forbid, than to spend time for explanations, a talk and the help to the child. But if to abuse such approach, it is possible to grow up the lacking initiative and intimidated person.
1. To be oneself. You dreamed of the quiet and peaceful child, and he all day long rushes on a ceiling. In your representation boys everything is universal aggressive and brave, and yours modestly sits in a corner and reads books. You dreamed to grow up the intellectual, and to him and in a garage with the father well. It is necessary to reconcile and accept the child it what he is. Otherwise you risk to deform the fate of the child to please to you. Each of us is born with a certain set of qualities and how many try to change them, nothing will turn out. It is better to aim efforts at the development of what is pleasant to the child.
2. To have the opinion. Homo sapiens on that and reasonable that is able to think. Without this quality it is very difficult to live and try to obtain progress. Do not disturb, and help. Stimulate the child to ask questions, provoke to doubt, allow to argue with you even on household trifles. Since it trifles geniuses are also born. Well or at least the thinking people.
3. To show emotions. Presently, probably, only lazy does not know about it. If to constrain and forbid to express emotions – it is fraught with both somatic diseases, and psychological violations. Let children be happy in all sincerity and vyplakivat the tears. Let sincerely are surprised to new and do not hesitate to tell you about the fears. It is very important for healthy growing.
4. To dream. The developed imagination and an outright lie is different things. Surprises me when parents forbid children to invent the new worlds, to imagine unknown. Imaginations give birth to the real creative people able to find unusual in usual and to create absolutely new. Without creativity there would be no development of all mankind. Support children in their imaginations, sincerely be interested in them and participate in this fascinating action together.
5. To help parents. At first we drive away children from a floorcloth and the vacuum cleaner – disturb! – and then we cannot force to help us with cleaning. Helping parents, since the infancy the child feels important and necessary. Do not deprive of it it feelings. And at the same time impart love for work.
6. To sleep with light. Monsters in the dark – it is really terrible. You are surprised if you learn how exists even much adults, it is uncomfortable to them to remain in the dark. Especially when alone. Here only adults can control themselves and always know that at any time nobody to them will forbid to turn on this light. Children remain all alone in private with the horrors. And even the closest people do not want to help them.
7. Not to eat up all portion. Food has to be pleasure, but not penal servitude. Of course, can be difficult to poor eaters and especially gourmets: to them that give, everything is not tasty. Nevertheless, though some freedom of choice has to remain with children. Otherwise in the future not to pass violation of food behavior. And in the present it is fraught with serious hysterics.