It was not accepted to think earlier of how we talk to children therefore having had heard plenty of the mothers, we automatically give "crown" phrases one behind one. Nevertheless all of us do not need to know what words can touch the child and at times and cripple mentality.
Close the mouth
This phrase a priori belittles the child, lets it know that it here nobody and to call him in any way. Convinces that nobody will listen to it, to you it is not necessary and to try. Such attitude towards itself can extend for the rest of life and when already the adult needs to defend the opinion before somebody, he with high probability will not risk to make it.
With your character …
It is the direct road to a low self-assessment. The child can even not understand that he not so with his character, but treats already in advance himself, as to someone difficult, silly, bringing only problems.
I for the sake of you, and you …
You should not do of yourself the victim. After all, it you parent to the child, and not vice versa. Sense of guilt, in the majority unreasonable, will not help your child grow the harmonious personality. And will definitely not solve any your conflict.
Do not roar!
The ban on expression of the feelings will have bad impact on ability of your children to understand itself, to realize and cope with experiences. And from here nearby and to psychosomatics and inability to take care and people around.
From me do not wait for a praise
Feeling of diffidence and uselessness of the activity – here what you will achieve such education. Children need that showed them a way, let know where they do right thing, well. And understanding is still important that they meet with approval and gratitude that their efforts are necessary to someone bring benefit.
You are such ordinary-looking and to look there is nothing
It is difficult to present parents who with own hand and so roughly deprive of the child of belief in the appeal and uniqueness. Nevertheless such parents are which, sometimes it seems, it gives pleasure to raise complexes in the children.
Love the children!