The responsible and loving parents try to raise the children worthy people and is general the developed persons. And many understand, not only what with children needs to be done, but also what they need to tell is of very great importance.
Mothers and fathers read the necessary literature, watch programs in which new and effective methods of education are told. There are several basic rules to which it is worth adhering. It is necessary to choose phrases and expressions which parents try to bring up the child. It is necessary to understand that everything that is told by parents, remains in consciousness of the child. If kid to praise and encourage, he will grow self-assured.
What needs to be spoken
When parents say: "You well done! You perfectly coped!" — the child wants to continue and complete the begun business.
If parents try to calm the child in failures: " Do not worry! All make mistakes, and it is normal. Next time at you surely it will turn out!" — the child learns to accept defeats and to draw the correct conclusions from the misses.
It is necessary to speak as often as possible to the child about his talents, to praise drawings and hand-made articles, to ask to make something else, then the kid will not be afraid to try something new, knowing that a lot of things at him turn out. Surely it is worth speaking to the kid: "Sit down near me and tell, how was your day" — then mutual understanding and trust will never leave the relations of the parent and child. He will learn to share the thoughts and experiences, to ask council. When parents say: "The kid, excuse. I was wrong" — the child knows that the truth not on the party of the authority and it is not a shame to admit mistakes even to adults, it on the contrary is sign of force. The character which is built up in the atmosphere of parental approval and support will become a basis for successful future life. Study and work will come to such people easily, they are not subject to long experiences and a depression.
Undesirable phrases
If child it is constant to criticize and say that he is a loser, he will never be self-assured also in the acts. If parents want to teach something the son or the daughter, it is better to discuss actions, but not the kid. It is impossible to abuse the child at others, thus, he feels small. All educational moments need to be spent in private, being eyes flush with the child's eyes. Never it is impossible to speak to the child: "You bothered me!" — at the parent it is minute fatigue or anger, and the child perceives such words literally and very deeply. All fears and uncertainty of people begin in the childhood. In the same way self-confidence and the positive relation to the world is put in the childhood. Depends only on parents what attitude they give to the child.