Many cases when between children heavy relationship was established are known. Rivalry between brothers and sisters is usually widespread. Somewhere children compete to a smile, and somewhere it is the reason of the unhealthy relations. How it is possible not to allow quarrels between children?
Very often parents are the cause of such feelings as jealousy. For example, the child was surrounded with attention from all directions, and one more child appears then. If you expect replenishment, surely explain to the child that globally nothing will change and that parents will love it still.
Do not deprive of the senior attention and evenly distribute time between two children. Do not admire the second child in front of the first and advise to do the same to relatives.
It will be best of all to acquaint your first child with all events which are taking place in family. If you go to shop, surely take all children and if you think to make purchase, let's the child choose a toy, both for itself, and for the kid.
Also not superfluous will give to the child the small instructions related to the baby. For example, ask it to bring diapers or a small bottle – it will let to the child know importance and responsibility. But do not turn the child into the nurse.
Do not compare children! Praise the child and ask it to share knowledge. It you teach the children to support each other. Give to children instructions which they can execute together, for example put toys, think a gift or go to shop. Besides, team games perfectly will approach.
What to do if children swear, fight, shout or peach at each other? React to any manifestations of the conflicts, it influences their self-assessment and their ability to behave with people. Remember that children on character are not similar at each other, and your task is to teach to respect them each other. If the senior child plays one, then it is worth explaining younger that so he likes to play more.
It is not necessary to create between children of competitions, in the absence of the competition of their relation will be friendly.
How it is possible to help children? Listen to them. If the child speaks about the offender, his rage will leave by itself. Understand vision of the situation and be the most benevolent; you will agree with the offender's parents. Let children will state everything that they think about each other and do not interrupt them. After that it is worth explaining to them why they are wrong.
Do not promise the child that his offender will deal with you or that your offender silly, such statements cause only aggression.