The first signs of disobedience and obstinacy begin to be shown at children approximately at the age of two years. Insisting on the, without obeying, resolutely responding "no" almost to all proposals of adults, the child literally exhausts parents. How to behave with the disobedient kid?
Up to one and a half-two years it was rather simple to your kid to cry that approached him, fed, changed clothes. The baby was entertained and carried out all his desires which became more and more. And now parents do not allow to get into a garbage can, against will conduct home with walk. Natural reaction of the kid trying to become independent – a protest. There came the age at which the kid needs to learn to understand that at others as well as it, has desires and feelings that there are rules which need to be followed. To master this very important task the baby needs time. Parents have to teach the little man to regulate the feelings, to help it to master skills of communication with people. Development of independence of the child does not mean total rejection of any restrictions. The bans are also necessary to the kid, as well as freedom of choice. Only if parents behave inconsistently or there is too much restrictions, life of family turns into the constant field of battles on which the child remains the winner quite often. Try to calm down and understand that yours hitherto the appeasable kid behaves thus not because wishes to spoil to you life. He just tries to master the new strategy of behavior, and to the baby is hardly too. Try not to react very nervously to bad behavior of the kid that it did not repeat more often. In such a way the child tries to obtain your attention. Let it know that his hysterics do not frighten you that, sharing its feelings, you after all do not change the point of view. Pay to the kid at most of attention when he is appeasable and behaves well. If he makes about what you asked it, surely praise it. There is no need to praise the adult for the fact that he brushes teeth, and it is for the present very important for the two-year-old child. Help the kid to realize the emotions. It is very important to it to learn to understand as why happens to it when he protests or to be angry. Instead of the words "Do Not Dare to Become Angry", tell the baby better: "I know that to you it is bad, you are upset, but I am very upset with your behavior too". The child who is persistently insisting on the, often just cannot understand that want from him. He hears only indignation of parents and answers the same. In such situations try to speak by a quiet voice and most accurately to formulate the requirements. To avoid unnecessary fights, give to the child a choice opportunity more often. For example, if the kid does not want to change clothes before going to bed, ask him in what pajamas he wants to sleep. During a lunch itself let will choose a spoon and a plate for food. Give to the child the chance to make the independent decision, then, perhaps, in other situation he will be more appeasable. Remember that the more patiently, in concert and all family members will consistently insist on acceptance by the kid of the obligatory, carried-out all rules, the easier your child will be able to master them.