Not all children want to have brothers and sisters. Them quite accepts the provision of the only thing and all the beloved child. Manifestation of natural children's egoism and jealousy can be reduced if it is correct to prepare the child for the brother's birth.
Talk to the child. Ask it to tell why he does not want the brother. Perhaps, he is afraid that parents will give to the kid all the time, and about it will forget or will even stop loving. Or the child does not want to share the things.
Brother not the competitor
It is quite natural that the child does not want to share with anybody attention and care of parents. Explain to the kid that he forever will be for you dear and unique how many still children appeared in your house. As often as possible you say to him as strongly you love it. Promise, despite everything to spend 1 hour a day with it alone. It is important to child to understand that with the advent of the kid he will not become unnecessary and superfluous. Children should not feel like competitors in fight for attention and love of parents.
Let know to the child that he has the right for jealousy and fear. His fears are not groundless, parents often pay less attention to the senior children at emergence of younger. Tell that your child can always share with you the disorders, and you will come to the rescue of him in any situation.
The brother - the friend
Tell how it will be exciting to play to your child with the brother. Let know that the kid is not the rival, but one more family member who will love your child. Give the examples from life of your family or friends confirming that to have the brother is a great happiness. Perhaps, in your environment there is a family with several amicable children. Or you have a brother or the sister with whom you are always ready to share problems. Read books about brothers and sisters. "The snow queen", "Three pigs", "Geese swans", "Bluebird of happiness" tell a story about how the help of the native person is important. Discuss read. Ask the child to think up, the plot kind of developed if, for example, Kai had no Gerda. Discuss how you will bathe and dress together the kid. Tell that you by all means need the help in care for the newborn. So your child will feel that you need his participation in the affairs related to the newborn, and the brother needs his care. Your child should share toys with the kid. Explain it in advance. But also the younger brother will give it the things. Thus, at children will be twice more than toys. Tell that the brother's birth – a holiday for all family. Ask the child to give a gift for the kid. It can be the card made own hands or one of toys. Promise that the elder brother is also waited by a surprise from younger. To buy in advance something for the child and present in day of return from maternity hospital.