Experts established that approximately 90% of children aged from 3 up to 8 years have a fear of darkness. The child begins to be afraid of mysterious outlines of objects, and even shadows to him seem ominous. It concerns all objects which the kid cannot capture the look completely. For example, the place under the bed, over a case, etc. The reasons for nightmares at children a set. That it was possible to help the child, parents are followed about them by the nobility.
From where children have a fear of darkness
Mom and dad should know that the fear of darkness at their children is temporary. Nevertheless regular experience of severe stresses can have an adverse effect on mental health of kids. The fear can develop into a phobia. For the help to the child it is necessary to create comfortable conditions. First, it is always necessary to maintain with the child trusting relationship, to understand his feelings. That is to love the son or the daughter unconditional love. Secondly, it is necessary to try to set an example to the child on overcoming the fears. In the third, in education it is recommended to use flexible methods, not to apply excessive guardianship and control.
How to disaccustom the child to be afraid of the dark
If the child is afraid of the dark, parents should not call him the coward at all. It can lead to development of an inferiority complex in it. For a start it is necessary to create a cozy situation in the room of the kid, having turned the nursery into "the fantastic country". It is the best of all to hang up a soft night lamp in the room. Before going to bed it is necessary to give the chance to the kid at the turned-on light to look round, remember where there are things. And then to turn off the light and to leave to burn a night lamp on all night long.
It is impossible to frighten the kid of Babaykami even in the afternoon at all. Before going to bed the child can begin to listen to various rustles and sounds. Therefore it is not necessary to rustle in the adult evening, and it is better to read dityu the informidable fairy tale, to sing a quiet lullaby the song or just quietly to include a quiet tool melody, to make to the baby massage. It is desirable to embrace to a thicket the kid. The calming influence for the night the glass of warm milk with honey possesses. It is necessary to speak with children about fears. To tell them about the fears in the childhood and how parents fought with them. Having found out what or of whom the preschool child specifically is afraid, it is possible to try to discredit his horrors. For example, to assure the child that in kitchen the brownie Kuzya which expels all "evil spirits" from the house sits. Or to tell that all "Poltergeists" are afraid of soft toys. Therefore if to sleep together with some teddy bear, then nothing can happen. It is impossible to watch at the child horror films and fighters. Animated films and reading fairy tales where the hero wins against a monster can have useful impact. Or where frightened turns into a funny harmless being. It is possible to suggest the child to play a ghost that the kid himself stayed in his role. In it couples him fears can be dispelled. If the kid suffers constant nightmares, then it is necessary to ask him to draw the fear. And then to suggest to cage a monster. Or to tear the drawing into small pieces and to tell that from this point already nothing threatens the child. If fears repeat, then sessions with drawings can be continued until the kid is able even to remember the fear. And if the kid long suffers persuasive fears, and nightmares do not pass in any way, it is possible to address the psychologist or the psychiatrist to receive the qualified help of the expert.