Lie from children - an everyday occurrence in many families. Sometimes, that it becomes the cause of the serious conflicts between children and parents. Whether it is possible to disaccustom the child to lie with rigid methods or it should try to obtain in other ways?
The best way to understand why you are lied by the child - to present itself on his place. Remember own childhood in which you too for certain had to lie to parents. What pushed you on such behavior? Certainly, fear. Perhaps, once, having made any given offense for the first time, you fondly confessed to it to parents and were punished. From this point you also decided not to confess to all next similar cases. Quite so behave now and your children - this history repeats itself from generation to generation. Now imagine how you would arrive in the childhood in case are precisely sure that after recognition in offense the parents would not punish you (or at least punished much more softly). Whether you began to lie? Certainly, no. And it is possible, at you desire to make offense would disappear. So that to accustom the child not to lie, it is necessary to achieve from his party of trust to parents. Explain to him that parents are not enemies and that it is not necessary to be afraid of them. Promise that in case of recognition in offense you considerably soften or even if it is appropriate, cancel punishment, and explain that if the child does not confess itself, all of you equally learn sooner or later about the incident, but in this case punishment will be much more rigid. Also never break the evil on the child, you remember that any punishment from parents is the manifestation of love made for the good of the malsh. Sometimes, that the child makes any given offense unpremeditatedly, for example, accidentally touches and drops a vase. In such cases he lies to parents most often. In the presence of a pet he can shift the blame on him at all. Think and whether punishment at an unpremeditated act is appropriate in general, the child did not set the purpose to cause you damage, and, perhaps, itself is strongly upset. Therefore promise that in this situation in case of recognition he will not be punished in general. Completely cancel punishment for bad notes as they already are for it punishment. And it is absolutely ridiculous to punish for the cuts received on walk as it becomes in some families. But do not go too far. Do not create conditions in which the child, having admitted offense, even very heavy, will not be punished with guarantee. Then he will cease to lie, but will decide that now it is possible "to sin and repent" indefinitely. Observe reasonable balance, every time making the weighed decision on what exactly to do in case of recognition: to cancel punishment or only to soften it and in what degree.