Practical advice for the parents who convicted the teenage child of theft. How it is correct to react to a situation?
Instruction
1. You should not shout, or to abuse the teenager. It is better to ignore the fact of theft, to some extent. Direct the efforts to restoration of trusting relationship with the child, be interested in his achievements in school, ask about his hobbies, you praise for progress. You can give the child a small surprise in the form of a gift. Such inadequate reaction from parents, will force the child to be ashamed of the act and to regret deeds.
2. If it is heavy to child to communicate with peers, thus, he can bribe their good location to himself, especially if children humiliate and laugh at it because it has no given fashionable, expensive things. The child, tries to reach their level, resorting to theft. It is necessary to help the child in other ways to win attention of peers, or to try to be on friendly terms with children at whom interests coincide. The person, his qualities, but not financial position is interesting to true friends.
3. The teenager can use theft as a way of self-affirmation. He perceives himself as courageous, resourceful, is afraid of nothing of the person who is ready for risk and acts counter to the bans. Help the child to find other ways for self-affirmation. Point that the adult, courageous, independent person is responsible for the acts.
4. Stealing from parents, the child can show a protest against rules. It happens if in family the life of the teenager is subject to the most strict control, the set of the bans is imposed, the child practically has no personal space. Revise rules of education in your family, the child has to have enough freedom. Encourage it better to show more responsibility, you can give to the child more duties connected with family and the house.
5. Extortion of peers who are more senior and are stronger can become the reason of theft. Intimidations and humiliations from aggressive children, can induce the child to theft. The main thing to find out a situation in time. And to punish hooligans. Therefore you do not shout, do not abuse the child, at first try to find out the reasons his act. Be always open. Further the teenager will ask you for the help at once. Your child will know that he will meet not criticism in the address, and necessary support.