Crises of family life usually come when spouses lose interest to each other, and the former love is succeeded by irritation, discontent, mutual reproaches. It is necessary to manage to overcome this stage and to try to restore the normal relations.
It is required to you
- - letter for the spouse or the spouse;
- - two subscriptions to the pool or the gym.
Instruction
1. To smooth the conflict which arose because of misunderstanding of each other, you learn to forgive and apologize if it is necessary. You should not be silent and pout at the husband or the wife till several days in a row. If you are still not ready to reconciliation, ask the partner to give you time to calm down and put thoughts in order.
2. Concede to your second half if that is demanded by a situation. The excessive rigidity, adherence to principles in views will not be able to strengthen your relations. If you consider that everything has to be quite so, but not differently, and your partner has the basic point of view on the matter, there is a danger that crisis of family life will end with a divorce.
3. You seek for communication with your partner. Discuss various news, resolve together any issues even if you and do not want it. Do not become reserved, be not fenced off from the spouse or the spouse by the TV, the computer, the newspaper, etc.
4. If you took offense at something, share the feelings with your second half. Try not to begin with charges and reproaches, characterize your experiences better, for example: "To me it is very sad now. Probably, it occurs because we misunderstand each other", etc.
5. In a case when you cannot quietly and is frictionless to discuss current situation with your partner, write it the letter. In detail state in it all your feelings and experiences, try not to bring charges whenever possible.
6. Never sort out the relations with the husband or the wife in public, do not allow public insults. Try not to do what then by all means you will regret about. Having given in to emotions, you can forever destroy what was built not one year.
7. Provide to the spouse or the spouse his personal space, do not encroach on its territory. Your second half surely has to have such place in the apartment or the house where the person could relax, quietly esteem, watch TV or just think of something.
8. Without fear break down the stereotypes which arose during your family life. Refuse the developed rules of conduct, for example, register together with the spouse or the spouse in school of ballroom dances. Certainly, in this case everything depends on your desires and interests – it is possible to begin to visit the pool or the gym together.
9. Try to look at your darling with a new view, for this purpose it is possible to estimate it in a working situation, to meet friends of his childhood, to be fond of its hobby, etc.
10. Be not afraid of crises in your family life: if you really love each other, then nothing will be able to break your family. Work on its unity, respect your partner, and you surely together will celebrate all significant anniversaries of your family!