Disappointments in life of the child meet quite often: favourite heroes are not real, parents not always grant desires, and gifts are not such as the kid asked.
Instruction
1. Whether it is worth protecting the child from disappointments in life? Whether it is possible to look in his face which is filled with tears and a grief quietly? For the loving parent it is intolerable anguish. And still up to the end to protect the child from disappointments it will not turn out even at the most careful parent. Moreover – to do it not always and it is necessary.
2. Disappointments in life of the child are absolutely different: did not buy sweet in shop, and for birthday did not present expensive toy. Refused a request, punished and forbade to walk, took away the computer for bad marks. Examples it is possible to call hundreds. And then does not receive all situations in which the child waits for something conceived or to which got used, and they suddenly change the course, cause chagrin and disappointment.
3. To protect the child from similar disappointments it will not turn out and it is frequent and there is no need. If the child has no similar examples and refusals, he will grow up spoiled and selfish. Small disappointments help the kid in the course of socialization, schooling to rules and with understanding that not all is authorized to it.
4. Minor problems and misunderstanding can be solved a simple conversation with the child. Yes, today he did not receive desirable sweet, but mom can prepare something tasty at home. Besides, parents have to seek to prevent similar desire if they do not intend to do what the child waits for. It is possible to say at once that in shop it is necessary to buy only the main products, parents do not intend to spend money for all the rest. Or they cannot present to the child for a holiday an expensive toy, it is not necessary to hope that he will receive such gift.
5. For prevention of children's disappointments the parents cannot change the behavior sharply. Let's say if the kid was constantly indulged, and then decided to be severe, of course, it will lead to his disappointment, misunderstanding, whims and resistance. Hysterics and frustration in this case are guaranteed to parents. Change the relations with the child gradually. Let the kid get used to new conditions, it is important that he had time for understanding of the changed situation, otherwise it will be for it unpleasant and will lead to a stress.
6. What cannot be allowed absolutely – so it disappointments of children because of outstanding promises of parents. If mom or dad promised to come to a concert to the child, to descend with it for a holiday or to arrange a surprise, it is necessary to postpone all important issues, meetings and works involving all hands at work because the violated promise is the biggest shock for the kid. He will hardly once forget it and will forgive it to the parents not soon. Besides, the similar behavior will show to the child, as it can deceive and violate the promises. It will be extremely difficult to restore authority after similar disappointment for parents.