Question of that, it is possible or it is impossible to kiss the child on the lips, interests many parents as some families consider this ritual important for education of children. However qualified specialists from the field of pediatrics, stomatology, virology and also children's psychologists take an independent stand and proofs of whether it is worth eradicating this family "ceremony", or, on the contrary, to strengthen in life of each separate family.
Why most of doctors against adult relatives kissed children on the lips?
The opinion of pediatricians, virologists, infectiologists and stomatologists, most often, is unambiguous – adults cannot kiss children on the lips. The position of these doctors has nothing in common with psychology. Repeated scientific research confirms that in saliva of the adult there is a huge number of microbes, potentially dangerous to the child, which, getting to a children's organism at kiss on the lips, can provoke a number of serious diseases.
With the adult's saliva lactobacilli, fungi, a herpes virus, caries and other causative agents of various viral and infectious diseases get to an organism of the child. The researches conducted by the Finnish scientists confirmed that 38% of children in whom at early age caries was found were infected with it by mothers who are accustomed to kiss the kids on the lips. Even in spite of the fact that most of them maintains the correct hygiene of an oral cavity, children suffered.
Among the provoked diseases of children there were a tonsillitis, herpes of lips, herpetic stomatitis, a SARS, mononukleoz, caries. It is not all list of unpleasant consequences which can happen to the child after the adult's kiss though the kissing parent, at the same time, can externally look absolutely healthy.
What is told by psychologists about kisses on the lips with children
Certainly, the doctor specializing in children's psychology and also his colleagues, look at a situation - from "bell tower". But also here their opinions differ, and the question of hygiene of an oral cavity, per se, is not present at reasonings of children's psychologists at all.
Some doctors consider that children should be kissed on the lips because this important manifestation of parental love and care. Such experts persistently recommend to kiss the child on the lips, and to embrace to three-year age more often until in the house the subject role-playing games applied in education of children began. Including, the doctor can tell what can be kissed if the child himself asks about it, for example, during preparation for sleeping when someone from parents finishes reading of the evening fairy tale.
Other "camp" of psychologists, on the contrary, hold the opinion on direct influence of such kisses on deviations in puberty and sex education of children. They focus attention that if kisses on the lips, nevertheless, are present at family life, then parents and children of opposite sexes have to abstain from them in every possible way. They give children who attend kindergarten as an example. Got used to kisses on the lips, they can repeatedly make it with the peers.
You should not forget about children to whom such touches, irrespective of their age can be just unpleasant also. Not created mentality of each kid differently reacts to such manifestation of feelings. Some children begin to repeat similar practice not only with the parents, but also with grandfathers, grandmothers, and other close relatives that, in fact, will force to return to the first paragraph of article to re-read the list of diseases which can be transmitted to children from adults at kiss on the lips. More adult children, can see in it the hidden sexual implication that will result in their isolation and a psychological trauma even if such experiences are, actually, groundless.
Summing up
To kiss or not to kiss on the lips the child – business personally of each parent. However, before introducing similar educational "ritual" in family life, it is necessary to weigh carefully all pros and cons in the made decision. And if, nevertheless, mothers and fathers cannot do without kisses, then, they are simply obliged to monitor normal mental and physical development of the children, at the same time, to give to hygiene of a cavity of the mouth considerable amount of time.