Both among parents, and opposite opinions on many issues of education of children often meet at recognized experts. So views and of whether it is worth saying to the child that he is the best disperse.
Sweet lie or bitter truth... Golden mean!
To decide whether it is worth saying to the child that he the best, parents have to. However in this question, as well as in many others, the children concerning education, sense of proportion is very important to observe and to soberly assess a situation. For example, praising highly carelessly executed drawing or applique, parents put the child at several risks at once: first, after receipt in school the child should face more adequate and critical evaluation of the efforts, and secondly, the opinion of adult members can stop being authoritative. At the most adverse combination of circumstances, the child, having fallen "from heaven to the ground", can accuse parents that they are guilty of some of his problems absolutely fairly.
Deciding whether it is possible to say to the child that he the best, it is important to monitor his reaction. If the question of as far as it "is good" or even "is better than others", is particularly acute too, it is worth thinking of change of the tactics.
On the other hand, parents and other family members have to represent for the child "the reliable back" under the most various circumstances. Even if something is impossible, inadmissibly, on the contrary, to say to the kid that he "the worst" or even "silly". As the modern western psychologists specializing in relationship with younger generation recommend, any criticism has to be combined with a praise. Once you only think, and practically it is always possible to find the way "sugar the pill". The kid learned to tie laces not at once or putting on, cannot keep within half an hour or even hour? Before abusing, it is necessary to remember, and what is the time mother or the father devoted to that the child seized any given skill? And then, softly to remind the child - he so great copes with some tasks. Only yesterday the daughter helped mom to sweep the floor and to collect newspapers - undoubtedly, such clever girl if it a little is trained, will easily learn to do something independently.
"Mothers everyones are necessary", and children?
According to a number of experts, it is much more effective to parents to say not that them "the child - the best in the world", and that under any circumstances the kid (and the more so the teenager!) will be "the best for the relatives". So growing up child besides will be able to avoid painful feelings after failures and also will be insured from the fact that because of any misses the parents can change the opinion on it.
The child it is necessary to praise and teach to derive pleasure from victories. However it is not less important to teach the child to overcome difficulties and to endure failures, only the one who does nothing at all is not mistaken.
At the same time, victories and achievements of the child are very important, they need to be fixed. The son or the daughter won first place in a competition or won a prize on sports meets? The debt of parents is to express the pride of the child, to share joy of the child and also to help it not to be satisfied with what has already been achieved. And in similar situations quite appropriate to tell once again about the one who actually is "the best girl in the world" or "the best boy in the world". Psychologists also recommend to parents to try to focus attention on the feelings. That is, mother happy with progress of the child can quite tell about the same, but in other form - for example, "when I saw your tidied-up room (the five for a quarter, etc.), I felt the happiest mom in the world".