Any adequate parent wishes the child only good luck. But most often in the positive rushes the adults will come across unwillingness of the child to listen to councils and manuals. The child just does not want to understand what to him is told by adults.
If to certain age the word of the parent was not only the law, but also final instance, then aged from 14 years any parental words in question begin to be called. Depending on education of the child it can be the hidden resistance or a demonstrative protest. Quite often at teenage age the teenager's attitude towards parents accepts pronounced hostile character that cannot but offend adults.
Age crises as cause of the conflicts
The children's protest to a degree is present during the different age periods connected with the crisis moments. Especially difficult it is possible to consider age crises of three-year age when the child begins to feel as the independent personality, and at teenage age when hormonal changes of an organism and all that is connected with them begin.
At three-year age the child can show obstinacy purely from the research purposes to look how adults will react to his behavior. But in the strongest manifestations of obstinacy the parents all the same at this age remain final authority. Crisis of the teenage period is not in vain called "difficult age", and this age is difficult not only for children, but also for their parents. In 13-14 years the child has a powerful hormonal reorganization – the child passes to a growing stage.
How to find a common language with the teenager
Physiological growing not always happens to psychological that causes a dissonance in understanding by the child of the world around and those people who for the child are associated, first of all, with the childhood, that is with parents. It is difficult for teenager to understand that for parents he will always remain a child. Both in 20, and in 30 years they will treat it as to the child demanding care and caress. This thought reaches some adults on an end of days, the or parents, and the teenager sees in care manifestation only the aspiration of parents to limit its freedom. At this age it does not make sense to explain to the child common truths, hardly they will be heard. The task of parents of the teenage child is to let know to him that it is still loved and is under their protection. The love and a step will help to keep the friendly relations with the child. Let to parents and sadly to realize that the kid takes off from a darling nest, but all passed through it - it is life.