Parents want to grow up the child the worthy person, and, naturally, strongly are upset if children do not equal their hopes. Even at competent approach to education, times children begin to lie, often discomposing parents. How to disaccustom the child to lie.
Not lie, but imagination
Small children, kindergartners and younger school students usually dreams much, this fact is perceived by scientists as a certain step in mental development of the child. Kids often invent to themselves virtual friends and various situations which were not and cannot be in real life, it is connected with viewing animated films and hobby for computer games. Having heard similar tales from children, you should not abuse them, and it is desirable even to be connected to their game, together to think up a plot and the scenario of succession of events. The child will be immensely glad to such turn, and parents will feel that the kid began them to trust more.
But it is necessary to be able to distinguish children's imagination from banal and impudent deception when the child issues any obviously inveracious information for achievement of some purposes. Here parents need to think where and as they made a mistake in education of the child.
To Takpochem children lie?
To equal parental hopes
To make the child versatily developed personality, most of parents write down the child in various circles and sections, over time the child begins to be tired, being engaged on a limit of the opportunities. The child begins to shirk circles, to ignore trainings, to forget about some homeworks. The school student tells parents about the achievements in any given area. Children do it not to upset parents to equal their hopes to cause pride of mom and dad. In order to avoid similar situations you should not load the child too, choosing the next circle or section, it is necessary to consult to the child, having in passing found out whether the similar occupation is pleasant to him and whether he will find time for visit of any given action.
To draw attention
The modern rhythm of life forces parents to work much to provide normal life to itself and the children. Often kids strongly lack parental attention, and the banal lie is used here, children speak about feeling sick, complains of a headache and nausea and so on. As soon as parents begin to worry, iron, caress and kiss, all symptoms immediately pass. If the similar situation repeated several times, think of the behavior, perhaps, your child elementary lacks attention?
In order to avoid punishment
At school or sports sections children can dump failures on other pupils or participants, sheets with bad marks escape, and the torn trousers hide far away in a case. Provokers of such lie too often are parents, it is not necessary to abuse the child in an occasion and without it, and it is better to sit down nearby and to think how to get out of current situation.
Sense of shame
It is no secret, that a great number of women raise children alone. Kids and children are more senior tell peers of a tale that their dad is a sea captain, the astronaut, the geologist or the died hero. All this becomes not to feel fatherlessness and to rise in the opinion of friends a little.
Lie of parents
The wrong behavior of parents can sometimes provoke desire to lie at the child. For example, at you phone calls and you see the subscriber number with which you would not like to communicate, you attract to the child a tube and in a whisper ask to tell that mom and dad went to shop, visit the grandmother, paint batteries, well and so on. The child, seeing as mom easily lies, does not consider any more that it is shameful, and with ease lies what to get out of the awkward situation.
What to do if the child lies?
Be for the child the best friend, you say more often that he for you the most expensive and that practically any situation is solved with the minimum losses. You say that the truth above all that nobody will punish the child. Surely tell that any lie will become obvious over time that deception will not save the situation, and only for a while will remove an unpleasant conversation. It is impossible to abuse the child at all if his fault is unproven. Still nobody cancelled an innocence presumption, even in such nursery and a ridiculous situation.