Parents often see doctors with complaints that their kid too stubborn, whimsical or aggressive. But practically none of them are anxious because of too quiet and obedient child. Though many psychologists claim that the obedient child – it is not always good.
Of course, it is very convenient to communicate with such correct and trouble-free child, but it is necessary to understand, than his obedience is caused. Perhaps, this manifestation of congenital phlegmatic temperament, good breeding, but it is possible that this behavior has the forced character. It is necessary to observe how the child behaves in conflict situations. It is very important to be able to react adequately to experiences, to cope with negative emotions. If the child is afraid or is not able to express them, they collect, there is an internal aggression which weakens health. Such children, as a rule, are ill much, they have a weak immunity. Going to a disease, obedient children punish themselves for "bad" thoughts. Many parents are proud of the obedient and well-mannered child. At the same time they do not think of his further life. Subordinating and suppressing the child, they ensure quiet life. Obedience often turns into passivity, into inability to find the place in life. From the modern person the activity, leadership, strong personality is required. He has to be able to make decisions, to risk, to show initiative. Excessively obedient child is not capable of it. Due to the lack of own position he it becomes easy subject to manipulation of other people. Obedience can result in various dependences. Leaving in alcoholism, drug addiction or sect becomes quite real for the depressive and depressed teenager. The child has to have the right for expression of negative emotions. It is necessary to teach it to express adequately negative feelings, to talk about it. Parents should not be afraid to show such emotions as anger, irritation, offense, but to do it without humiliations and insults. It is necessary to remember what cannot be brought up from the child of the obedient performer of any requirements. To be successful, he has to be able to defend the opinion.