Why the child does not obey

Why the child does not obey

The child shouts, stamps legs and does not wish you to obey at all? In what can the reason be? People around swing the heads and say that the kid was just spoiled and he is whimsical. Do not worry, everything is not so bad. For similar behavior of your child there can be quite objective reasons.

Constantly all forbid too much zapretovkogd to the child, he just has a certain need for disobedience. It is impossible to soil tights, it is impossible to run, it is impossible to jump, candy, it is impossible to look cartoons is impossible, it is impossible to run at a swing, etc. The system of the bans is so big that really important are lost in a large number of smaller. And the child begins to break them, just carrying out the need for violation. And it is good if this disobedience extends only to the small bans. And if it breaks at once what is really important? For example, the ban on a game with matches? An occasion to think to excessively strict parents. VsedozvolennostEto complete antithesis of severity and system of the bans. At first sight it seems that parents and children have a full mutual understanding. Dad and mom - wizards who can do everything. But suddenly there comes the moment when desire of the child cannot be executed. Parents know that it is impossible, and the child thinks that just do not want. And if he begins to be capricious and demand, then mom and dad will execute his whim. Both in the first, and in the second case it is necessary to observe a certain measure in education of the child. The third reason of whims and disobedience - mismatch of parents in zapretakhto is mom speaks to the child it "is possible", and dad - "is impossible". It is natural that in this case the kid will choose a position it "is possible", but at the same time will try to make everything quietly and when he begins to be abused, parents can receive not just whims, and the real hysterics. Therefore it is very important what parents at least in important points would always know each other position on any given question. In case of doubts the child can just tell that "I will consult to mamoypapy, and we will solve". Raised vozbudimostyetot the fact most often depends on medical indicators. Also it is traced in infancy. Such children are revealed by the neurologist, the psychologist, etc. Crises Crisis of one year, crisis of 3 years, crisis of 7 years. Psychologists and teachers have the whole table of such here crises. But not each parent knows about similar. In fact, crisis is a transition of the child to a new step of development. Actually the kid jumps in the certain revolutionary way on a new form of development. The conflict arises in case parents do not manage to reconstruct. For example, the child jumped on this step in three years, and mom and dad still communicate with him on the system of the built relationship of two years. However this system does not work any more and it seems that the baby does not obey, behaves badly, is capricious. Some parents say that no crisis at children was noticed, and sort of it was not. It's not true. Crisis was, just in this case parents managed to reconstruct under needs of the child. RevnostKogda in family two children are one of the main reasons. Younger requires to itself attention more, than the senior, and senior child begins to be jealous. Whims, disobedience are a peculiar way to attract attention and to gather additionally that amount of time which lit younger, let and negative emotions of parents. Therefore it is worth watching how you distribute the attention between children. If you sat down to draw with younger, surely connect also the senior. Thus, you both pay attention, and will be able to adjust relationship between children. Overestimated a trebovaniyarebenok grows gradually and according to norms of development begins to talk, read, write. At the same time there are also specific features. Therefore do not demand from it what it is not ready to yet.

Author: «MirrorInfo» Dream Team


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