The rare parent did not come up against a situation when the child suddenly begins to deceive. The children's lie can be harmless and cheerful, but in certain cases the child lies nearly constantly. From where does the tendency to lies at children's age undertake?
What is the cornerstone of a children's lie
Imitation. Children are often compared not for nothing to sponges which absorb in themselves others emotions, examples for behavior and imitation and so on. If the child appears the witness of lies if he constantly or often is in a situation when around it lie, persons, especially adult and authoritative for it, the kid begins to adopt similar behavior model. It seems to it that if mom or dad tell a lie, then and it is necessary to arrive. In sometimes child can begin to lie to parents kind of working to spite, for harm, wishing to show the whimsical character. However even for such behavior the child has to have a certain sample. It can "pick up" tendency to a lie from the fallen in love hero of the children's book or see how other people lie each other on the TV screen.
Desire to draw attention. Demonstrativeness is very typical line for children's behavior, it remains and at teenage age. When the child lacks attention from parents, friends, relatives, he begins to invent ways as this attention to receive. Many children begin to act just through a lie. Lies can be harmless when the child dreams or embellishes any events longer to hold on itself attention of adults or peers. However in certain cases the lie can be very sharp and even frightening.
Pathological tendency to a lie. The pathological form of a lie is shown by the fact that the child from early age lies without the reason, on any subjects. It does it nearly constantly, at all without feeling a remorse. No talk or educational measures, attempts to shame or abuse the little liar bring any result. If the similar trend is expressed very brightly, it becomes a reason for visit of the children's psychiatrist or the psychotherapist. There is a certain mental deviation when the person does not realize the lies. For it all that he sounds is the real truth. It is impossible to overpersuade such person, as well as to cause sense of guilt for lies. Such people need the appropriate medical assistance.
Internal fears and fears. Very often the child lies to parents when he is afraid of punishment when feels guilty of any situation. Without wishing to hear how mom or dad swear on it, without wishing to stand in a corner, to be responsible for a certain act or to upset parents, the child tries to get out of a situation with the lies help. Such behavior is typical for children which grow in conditions of very strict, rigid education. If in consciousness of the child the image of the father or mother is painted in gloomy tone if the child endured strong humiliation during punishment about offense or punishment ingenerated the kid fear, the child will lie, assuming that it will save it from consequences.
Lie as protection of the personal territory. Such reason why the child lies, is usually relevant for teenage age. Teenagers are inclined to keep back a lot of things, to exaggerate or, on the contrary, to underestimate, conceal some nuances from parents. The lie in this case acts as attempt to protect the personal territory, to close the inner world from curious and persuasive parents. The teenager often lies to parents on purpose as if to teach a good lesson them, to evade from their active control, pressure, from guardianship.
Lie as reaction to a microclimate in family. Situations when the child shows the attitude to the family conflicts, dramas and situations just through a lie are frequent. Lies acts as reaction to a quarrel of parents or any negative changes in family. Quite often in such situations the children's lie very closely intertwines with imaginations and the invented images, so the child tries to be protected from negative impact of a family microclimate.
Offense and desire to sweep. If the child very strongly takes offense at the parents for something, it is almost impossible to foresee for certain his behavior. Wishing to revenge for the feelings and emotions, the child can begin to behave disobediently, to be capricious, protest, show much negativism and to lie often. The rage on parents becomes excellent base for formation of a lie.