Timid, unsociable, gloomy – the closed children also are such. It is clear, that the closed children are not timid, they just do not know how to strike up acquaintance or, maybe, to be afraid to make it. But why children become isolated?
Main reasons
The closed children are people in a case. That is, they let in the are silent also the quiet world only of certain people in whom they trusted and to whom allowed to enter. Many parents say that the child early matured, and these children – not rovnya to their child, but they proudly are mistaken.
Prematurity. The fact that the child is born premature is one more reason of sharp isolation and because of prematurity is located to the special box. And so, stay in this boxing also makes children closed. At least, the qualified doctors came to such conclusion.
Problems. It is not about constants, and about temporary problems at which the isolation also appears for a while and leaves. It can be fatigue, some unresolved problem or gloom.
Mockeries. It is one of the most popular reasons of isolation of the child school student. Beyond all doubt, situations at which the child because of external excellent can be called the four-eyes, thick, red or still some offensive words are familiar to all. The sure child can fight back, but such cases is rather an exception, than the rule. Therefore children who constantly suffer snickers and mockeries in sy the address just build a wall and become reserved.
Parental quarrels. One more popular reason is in the family relations. Incredibly, but, when dad with mom quarrel, the child blames himself. In opinion and pure belief of the child, parents have to love, but not quarrel and not swear. Therefore, time he considers himself guilty, it just becomes imperceptible that does not become the cause of new quarrels any more.
Communication with schoolmates. The shortage of communication with the peers – also the isolation reason. The reasons for the shortage of communication can be much, but the most popular of them are:
- frequent diseases and, as result, frequent truancies;
- confidence of parents is that early to send the child to kindergarten, preferring it the grandmother or the nurse;
- frequent moving.
As a result the child just cannot or does not manage to adapt to the society surrounding him correctly. Around it only healthy and bright kids who can take away from it a toy run. It is clear, the child from it will be in confusion and will draw a conclusion that it will be better silent and imperceptible.
How it is possible to solve problems?
Help. Of course, problems and the reasons of isolation without fail have to become clear by psychologists, but parents can also help, communicating with the child. It is not necessary to look at age of the child, it is necessary to pay it attention maximum. Any child is in the correct support from parents very in great need.
Praise. Hesitate to praise nobody the child once again. Children very hard understand progress so that the child knew that he made something good and correct, he should be praised to raise his self-assessment.
As often as possible invite guests. In order that the child got used to different people and society, it is necessary to invite guests. And it is even better if guests come with the children. So children become even quicker liberated within the walls of a home.
Variety. Try to diversify the child's life with campaigns, excursions or visits of places, interesting to it.
No to orders. There is desire to learn the reason of children's bad mood? Ask the child about it the quietest and low voice.