Often parents try to develop the child from early age. They drive it to tutors, write down in circles and studios, dreaming that the child will be able to receive a maximum useful from classes and to become successful, and it is possible also the famous person. But, seeking to make "as it is better", parents can deprive of the child not only the childhood, but also an opportunity to learn to operate free time.
Not many parents think that the load with various classes can lead to the fact that without the assistance of the expert any more not to manage. But even find time for visit of the psychologist it can be extremely difficult, the whole days of the child are painted on minutes. Parents do not consider that to children important not only to seize various skills, knowledge and abilities, but also to learn to interact with society, to feel, love, to be on friendly terms, the nobility how to arrive in any given life situations. And for this purpose free time which the loaded child does not have is necessary.
If to ask some parents why you do not give to the child the chance to be engaged in what he wants, then most often in reply they will tell that if to give to the child freedom, he will sit, having buried in the computer or phone, and it is useless to spend time. He does not want neither to walk, nor to meet friends, nor to read books. Actually he does not do it because just did not learn, he never had free time.
To learn to operate free time, the child has to develop and the nobility that is really wanted by him, but not his parents. To meet friends, to communicate with them, to play games, to read books, the child has to study communication which is not put in it from the birth. Communicating with the peers, the child gradually understands how to dispose of the time, and develops. Playing toys, he also develops and if to take away from the child his hobby at early age, full development will slow down.
For what it is necessary to the child free time
For intellectual development. It is important to know that intellectual development happens thanks to games which change with age. If to forbid the child to play, then intellectual development to slow down and at adult age of people will not be able quickly to make decisions, to interact with collective or to begin the business. All these skills are put thanks to childish sports. Having taken away this opportunity from the child, parents deprive of him development.
For ability to communicate with other people. This ability is also put at the child at early age and only in contact with other children, in personal interaction with them. Only playing with each other, children can understand how it is correct to communicate. If child deprive of such opportunity and instead send to uncountable classes, then he, of course, develops intellectually and physically, but often does not receive skills of the correct — informal — communication with people. Therefore such people very difficult find in adult age to themselves the satellite or the companion of life, are not able to be on friendly terms, do not know how to get acquainted with the interesting person about what to talk at a meeting with friends (if in general such person has them). The inability to contact to people around can lead to loneliness, a depression, and sometimes to mental disorders.
For formation of identity. Only such person who learned to think freely, who had free time can think out the creative ideas to think up something special, but not to work on the template prepared for all. But to become identity, it is necessary to learn to choose independently what really is pleasant. If the child wants to sing, and parents send him to sports section, then hardly he will be able to realize further himself in what he dreamed of. Gradually own desires will be replaced with desires of parents and the personality who will wait when something others offer her, those who learned to think, communicate, play and interact with this world will be created.