The people having sense of humour are much more appreciated in society, than gloomy persons. This fact does not demand special explanations. In time the told joke can relieve any tension, and the person having thin sense of humour easily wins sympathy of people around. However at the same time, the joke told not in a subject can develop hostility to the person, and sometimes and to make a laughing-stock of him. To feel a thin side between in time the told easy joke, irony or sarcasm, it is important to know what there is a sense of humour and to be able to develop it.
How to learn sense of humour?
Problems with sense of humour meet at people rather often. They do not laugh together with all, not always understand the meaning of jokes and seem excessively serious. As a rule, it leads to problems in communication with people around. Before understanding how to gain sense of humour, we will consider what factors affect ability to joke:
- important parameters for emergence of sense of humour are the lexicon, level of erudition and associative thinking;
- irony - the easiest way to laugh at itself or people around. At this reception an object of humour is given characteristic obviously false and opposite to its qualities. For example, the lazy colleague can be told: "You, I see, as always slave away".
Happens so that the same joke can be told so that nobody will laugh. They need to be able to be presented to people around. It is for this purpose important to be able to express the thoughts and to extemporize, i.e. without preparing in advance.
Many parents ask a question how to develop sense of humour at the children. For a start it is worth remembering that the ability to distinguish jokes at kids develops aged from 4 to 7 years. Therefore education of sense of humour at this age should be made in the form of a game: to play situations, provisions and words. Such games not only perfectly develop intelligence, but also open to the child the truth – if to look at life with humour, then it becomes much simpler. That the child got used to sense of humour as the main component of life, family members can banter mildly one above another, and to make remarks to the kid with a joke and loving. Telling fairy tales it is possible to allocate heroes with ridiculous qualities and to laugh at villains. Then the child will acquire that any evil will become insignificant if to treat it with humour.
How to find sense of humour already to the adult, an issue too resolved. There are two directions of sense of humour – inside and outside. The first option represents ability of the person to find the positive moments in household and ordinary life and also the ability with humour concerns itself and the mistakes. The second option consists in direct ability to joke. Many people, choosing how to improve sense of humour, usually try only to learn to joke what is not absolutely true. First of all, it is necessary to develop in itself abilities to see a positive in life and to be able to laugh at by itself. The self-irony not only is well perceived surrounding, but also helps the person to find self-confidence. Try to joke as often as possible and be not afraid of unsuccessful jokes. The main thing for you is a practice.
In parallel with ability to joke develop erudition, acting skills and wit. It is possible to expand a lexicon by means of reading literature. It is also important to learn spontaneously, to speak. For this house in front of the mirror or when nobody nearby continuously you say no everything that comes to your mind. First this task will seem difficult. But gradually you learn to control your stream of words and to put them on the right track. It is possible to develop associative thinking by means of the description of inanimate objects. You can compare any such subject to what it reminds you and to think up the associations connected with its color, a form and the size. If the given advice how to increase sense of humour to you appears a little, you pass to special trainings.
Exercises for development of sense of humour
To develop in yourself good sense of humour you need to practise in this skill daily. There are no special secrets in these exercises, but it is possible not to doubt their efficiency.
- You learn to smile always. Any situation met by you with a smile will not seem such terrible as at first sight any more.
- If you somewhere heard a joke which was pleasant to you, write down it in a notebook. It always should be carried with itself that the arsenal of jokes constantly was replenished.
- Try not to be fond of black humour and jokes "belts", irony over appearance and nationality are lower. It you can not only push away from yourself people, but also strongly offend them.
- Be in comedy shows actively interested, read fresh jokes and ridiculous subscriptions.
Modern TV programs contain special shows where people compete in ability spontaneously to yumorit. Their many actions can be noted. But the main thing not in storing of someone's jokes. Learn to love life and to see in it a positive, be not afraid to laugh at yourself and then you will already take a huge step in development of sense of humour.
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