Emergence of mistrust, treachery, abuse - some of the main signs that it does not make sense to continue the relations. Often couples break up if one of partners is forced constantly by something to sacrifice or to infringe upon the interests.
After the serious quarrels in the head the thought of parting can appear. The cloudless relations occur only in animated films, and periodic disagreements between two loving people – norm. Instead of commission of rash acts at first it is necessary to understand, whether really the conflict or crisis serious. There are five signs on which it is possible to draw a conclusion that it does not make sense to continue the relations.
1. Infringement of the interests in everything
The compromise allows to resolve the majority of difficult situations. If both are ready to offer own relations, it causes respect. Not always it becomes a panacea from all problems. If it is constant to one of the parties to have to infringe upon own interests, to anything good it will not lead. Often the reason of such behavior – stereotype of thinking when it is impossible to accept the partner with his character, shortcomings and weaknesses. We look for an idealized image.
- There is an infringement of interests because of:
- insistence;
- desires to correct the partner;
- domination;
- psychological manipulations;
- impossibility of constructive dialogue.
Execution of all desires of the partner, dissolution in it and dedication leads to the fact that the feeling of own value is lost. Such relations will not be able long to develop as about love in them there is no speech.
2. Lack of confidence and lie
The lack of confidence – serious sign that it is time to finish the relations. If the person shows incorrectness, constantly deceives, further the situation will not improve. Commission of one mistake – often not to break off an occasion the union. It concerns cases when in family there is a love.
The mistrust arises thanks to life experience of the person. Often situations at which it appears influence the relations with other people. Treachery cannot be forgotten. If you were betrayed by the partner, hardly you will sometime forget about it. If the person does it often, then appropriate to ask himself two questions: how to live in a condition of mistrust whether it is worth living in general so.
3. There was in couple an abuse
It is one of the main signs by which it is possible to judge that couple should think of break in relations. It is almost impossible to overpersuade the mature and created personality. Psychologists recommend to try to change the behavior, to make a situation for the abuser unpredictable, to cease to look in his eyes the victim. However it helps in rare instances.
Long life with such person leads to decrease in a self-assessment and violation of perception of reality. The person who is beyond admissible can force to give up favourite work or to break off the relations with friends, relatives. If there is a threat of physical violence, it is necessary to leave immediately. Promises and threats of parting or a divorce in such situation will not work.
You should not "be bought" on short-term calm or ostentatious grace. Such behavior after parting can provoke the victim to truce and to return to family. However in several weeks the new wave of aggression will overflow your life.
4. You feel a stress when you are near the partner
The concept of any relations is in that the person who would fill with himself your surrounding space was near, leaving the place for your interests, a hobby, hobbies. If instead of receiving satisfaction from communication you constantly strain, ceased to feel satisfaction, it is worth thinking of the causes of a stress. Treats them:
- strong jealousy;
- financial insolvency;
- lack of satisfaction in sex;
- constant expectation of "dirty trick" or treachery.
It is possible to speak about parting not in a situation when one of the reasons unexpectedly appeared. Often they demonstrate crisis in family or in couple which can be worried easily. When these feelings are shown in a complex, do not die away throughout long term, it is worth thinking of ceasing to torment themselves.
5. Emergence of dependences with which it is impossible to struggle
Make life intolerable can: alcoholism, igro- and drug addiction. When problems only begin to appear, support of the loved one will help to cope with them. Often the first moment is missed, and the person himself does not understand that he needs to fight.
When the first moment is missed, there are two ways: to accept new dependence or to leave the relations. Attempts to correct the partner, to set him on the correct right track will lead only to the conflicts. Besides, emergence of dependence often arises if the person is not ready to build up the further relationship.
Is also other signs demonstrating that to continue the relations are not present sense. You can not see the joint future, indifference or boredom appeared. Each of these reasons has roots. Do you want to try to keep the union? It is necessary to be ready to complex and long work over by itself.