We always want to speak with the tactful, understanding people, to feel their attention and to hear kind words. It does communication pleasant and comfortable, and such behavior is called communicative culture.
But daily getting into conversations, we ignore culture of behavior and communication rather, than we show it. It demands from us restraint and sensitivity, the thoughtful attitude towards that as how to tell. Nevertheless, possession of this art will make any person popular, and what he will tell, will get into hearts and souls of listeners and his speech will always achieve the objectives.
So it is the communicative culture of the personality?
Communicative culture is and correct uses of language, and a communication podstraivaniye under a situation in which it happens. And still is such behavior which will be the best for a conversation.
If you competently and clear speak, build the speech so that it was appropriate and pleasant – means to the interlocutor, you developed communicative culture and during communication you are able to select the most suitable ways of interaction with the person. Of course, such ability does not appear suddenly, just like that. Formation of communicative culture and its development happens when you much and often communicate, learn to watch yourself and reaction of the partners, improve the behavior. And it was easier to learn effective behavior and communication, we will look how it is arranged.
So, bases of bases for communicative culture it:
- Competent creation of phrases and available speech. Use simple words, express the thoughts clearly and specifically, it is clear for your interlocutors. But do not lower at the same time the level: you speak competently, do not distort pronunciation, do not violate the rule of the speech.
- Respect for adequate tone of a conversation. It is possible to raise or lower a voice, to use its force, expressiveness and intonations, but it is not necessary to break on shout.
- Psychoemotional self-control. You watch the mood and behavior, control yourself, the gestures and a mimicry. You learn to relax in a conversation, without allowing roughness, sharpnesses, impulsivenesses to destroy its flat current and respect to each other.
It is competent to use language and to behave adequately in any situations and circumstances – an example of communicative culture of communication, its highest level. For this purpose it is necessary to be able to give itself and to apply rules of etiquette depending on communication type – secular or friendly, business or intimate, etc. Remember that having only begun a conversation and not having managed to tell also couples of phrases, you already make about yourself the first impression – the strongest as you know. And it is already impossible to make it for the second time.
And therefore it is better not to make mistakes. To speak about important it is available, but not too long and it is much, no more, than people are ready to listen. To answer questions briefly and precisely, without being lost, without littering the speech with excess words – and whether always we manage it? Or we say something it seems Ee, it means so … …. such this … as it … well …. This speech has nothing in common with the culture of communication.
As well as slang. But it all the same exists, for example, youth, professional, student's and others, and it is senseless to fight against it. But to communicate in the environment, violating the norms of the literary language - it is one. And here to address the chief on a youth slang, without following rules of etiquette and subordination, it would be silly and impolite.
In general, to respect the rules of etiquette, to be polite and benevolent it is necessary in any circumstances – in transport and in turn, at work and in chatter with the neighbor. Courtesy and benevolence – bases of communicative culture of the personality. And those who possesses it, not only speaks, but also listens carefully, and turns the interlocutors into friends and admirers.