""Conjugal duty. It is executed for the first time!"" – the harpist told, having got up on a chair, before the marriage night. Jokes jokes, and such concept exists for a long time and the attitude of people around towards him, to put it mildly, ambiguous. Most often we got used to hear about how careless spouses completely were up to the ears in similar "debt" and are not going "to give" them. What actually is under this widespread concept and how to pay on a conjugal duty? Let's try to understand it.
What is a conjugal duty?
Habitual frivolous jokes that the man is obliged to throw out garbage and messages military service in a love bed are truthful only partly. From where there was a phrase a conjugal duty it is for certain unknown. One of the versions which are most discussed today is that love matches began to consist rather recently. Earlier in many countries of women married by calculation. Including for debts. As far as it is right so far nobody undertakes to prove. Only the fact that today the debt of spouses is perceived by society one-sidedly, namely in the intimate plan is known. This phrase acquired a set of jokes and jokes thanks to the fact that in most of families the execution of a conjugal duty is a big problem, and both from the man, and from the woman. For example, the conjugal duty of the wife consists throughout a sort, etc. And if to trust experience of family people and a set of jokes, then usually business does not reach a bed. Most often because of lack of mood or the sore head. However, and from men these obligations are fulfilled not always.
What do spouses actually have to?
Getting married in bodies of the REGISTRY OFFICE, practically each couple swears each other love and fidelity and cohabitation in the mountain in joy. Mutual obligations begin with these words. Institution of marriage is created to create separate social group in society and to introduce in it the posterity. Such concept as a conjugal duty can be considered from two parties:
- This party is that spouses are allocated with the rights which are regulated by the law. Here choice of profession, residences, material support of each other, responsibility for education of the general children, respect for fidelity each other, etc. belongs. As for an intimate nature of the relations, here any rules and obligations, concerning refusal of sexual contact, does not exist. Perversions of sexual nature to which one of spouses does not agree can only be an exception.
- The moral party of a question is that marriage consists on love, so, the main core of the relations has to keep on the intimate sphere. That is both spouses have to be completely satisfied. Only thanks to harmony in the Platonic and sexual relations it is possible to say that the family is full and has chances of further existence.
One more party of a medal is that intimacy has to be not just proximity, and result of love of spouses and to mutual respect. However most often this sphere suffers most of all and almost in every second family problems begin. The reasons of non-performance of a conjugal duty are very various today:
- cohabitation with parents of one of the parties;
- limited amount of time for intimacy commission;
- children whose age does not allow spouses to approach.
Actually conjugal duty is not so simple as it can seem. Many couples begin to understand all importance of intimate proximity only years later. Any problem of sexual nature can not only spoil the relations between spouses, but also lead to marriage disintegration. To secure itself against possible problems, it is worth observing several principles:
- If in your family there were problems with execution of a conjugal duty, try to talk to the half about what could become the reason of such behavior. Try that your conversation turned out the most sincere.
- Try to glance in yourself and to sort out the reason of it to you the relations. Quite often spouses provoke refusal of proximity, but do not notice it therefore if the wife does not want sex, the reason can be in you. If you refuse intimate relations, such behavior needs to be motivated too.
Remember that the problem disappears at once as soon as it begins to be discussed. Be not afraid to speak with each other and trust each other. Only then the concept of a conjugal duty will not weigh your family and to spoil to you mood.
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