In your strong family the child has to appear. This most great happiness in the world which never and will replace nothing. All friends and relatives wish you good luck, patience, mutual understanding and strong family … There are no thoughts also at that time that mutual understanding and respect will help you to endure crisis of the birth of the firstborn.
"Reefs" in the relations after appearance of the firstborn
For the woman the birth of the child sets several important purposes: education by his worthy member of society and maintenance with the husband of former warm feelings and undying passion.
Both the husband, and the wife before emergence in a tummy of the kid have common interests. Spend all free time together, social, intellectual level at them identical. Presently the woman has good money and can even compete with the man. But with pregnancy approach the active life of the woman gradually changes, and to childbirth is changed radically. She is engaged in the child, the house, and its "the working day with the child", unfortunately not rubber. She does not manage to make toilet and to make for the husband a former dinner from five dishes.
The man understands that he becomes the only and main supporter in family and plunges into career. He safely goes on a career ladder and is proud of himself.
Each of them the good fellow in own way, but, unfortunately, against the background of it infinite offenses at each other also begin. It is life, but not series, and it is necessary to be more tolerant.
The man ceases to see that favourite beauty in the woman, often this image forces out an image of the cleaner, dishwasher. The identity of the woman is erased completely.
It is very difficult to understand each other, you practically have nothing to talk.
It is a little efforts, and you will be proud with each other
The man should wait very little when the hormonal background gets better, and the woman will become adequate. The man needs to help the woman to self-fulfill not only in the child and pans, to open for itself a hobby. And the woman needs to support the man, to praise him for achievements at work more often. They have to listen to each other, talking about the escaped porridge and the intolerable client.
The father can!
First of all the woman has to inspire in the man that the father will be able anything if is engaged with the kid. Confidence of the father will give him more men's forces, and to you will add free time.
Mummies often make mistakes, and then long take offense at husbands. They prefer to trust the grandmother and themselves, and the man stands apart. Gradually he forms opinion that and it is necessary. And when mother asks to spend time with the kid, it becomes very problematic. As the child does not understand why the father tries to play with him, and the father lacks patience.
He begins to understand what to observe from outside much more simply and easier. Also there comes utter chaos. Try to trust the father of the kid more often. Enter bathing and feeding into father's duties. The emotional connection between the father and the kid has to be strengthened since the early childhood.