Teenage age – the difficult period not only for the child, but for all family. Constant quarrels, misunderstanding and problems between all family members become hardly transferable at this time, are resolved long and hard.
During a transition period the teenager becomes vulnerable, susceptible, his opinion is contrary to parental beliefs. If compromise is not reached in time, the teenager gets to the bad company, gets addictions, and at times and thinks of a suicide. The majority of suicides happens in the period of awkward age when the child only begins to realize the purpose, to build the relations with peers. The teenager is inclined to apathy, often without wishing to accept himself it what he is.
Parents during such period have to be especially attentive to the child, is more often talk to him heart-to-heart and build up trusting relationship because at such "tender age" the teenager is in great need in understanding and the sensitive attitude towards himself.
The conflict of "fathers and children" - the classical, put by time conflict which, apparently, we do not resolve. However if to glance in a key part of the problem, then it is possible to notice the main negative human line there – unwillingness to listen and understand. If in each family tried to hear, but not to be heard, then the problem would not increase in such global scales.
The ability to listen – very valuable skill in itself and if it also works in relation to the child, then can be considered that the most terrible in awkward age behind. Many parents blame the children that those smoke, come late home, badly study at school, but do not understand that not the child should be blamed here. To reproach instead of directing – strategy which did not result still any parent in success in education. After all, it is useful to remember himself at such age before rushing with charges. The child himself will want to come a bit earlier home if knows that there he will not be condemned.
The awkward age is a creative examination for parents and also check on durability in the social, spiritual, communicative plan. It is necessary to be prepared seriously for this examination to be allowed to trust and to pass a test in the form of gratitude.