The death of own child – the heaviest of possible losses on light. The son whom you grew up to which devoted the life tragically died – to cope with a similar grief incredibly hard.
Instruction
1. You should overcome the desire constantly to think of it. "Scrollings" in the head of the happiest moments of joint pastime – such, as: the birth, the first words, walks on the park, doing homework assistance can bring only sincere sufferings and pain. Why do you do it? Similar self-torture will not return the beloved son who from you was so unexpectedly taken away by death. Undoubtedly, the memory of it forever will remain in your heart and light, clean memoirs will warm soul. But constant thoughts of it can lead only to a nervous breakdown.
2. Give yourself full-time job to the maximum. The hard work which takes away a lot of time will not leave you an opportunity to cry and think constantly of the died son. By psychologists it is proved long ago that it is very effective way to recover from deep psychological crisis with the smallest losses for sincere health. Take various extra earnings at work and in parallel be engaged in freelance – do that you want, only that you had time minimum - on small rest, food and a dream. However, it is possible to continue such "therapy" no more than two-three months.
3. If you feel that you will not cope with a stream of the gushed emotions, address the specialist psychotherapist. He will give you necessary moral support, will listen and will allow to be uttered much, together you will find an optimum way to experience the death of the son. The psychotherapist in this situation – the ideal assistant for lonely people who have no close relatives who would support at a difficult moment helped to cope with such loss.
4. Bring the child if financial and biological opportunities allow you to make it. No matter, what he a floor whether there will be he adopted or you give birth to him independently – the main thing that he looked at you the delighted children's eyes, murmured the words "mother" and "father" and required to itself constant attention. All burdens will recede, at heart it will become easier if you hear night puffing of the baby in a bed and to see his joyful smile.