To endure a divorce, regardless of its reason, - the strongest emotional shake-up and tension. The divorce is more, than break in relations. It is loss of stability, a daily routine, joint dream and plans, and often, as a result – financial difficulties.
- Maintain physical health. Enduring such painful event in life, it is easy to forget about a dream, healthy nutrition or trainings. Nevertheless, maintenance of physical health will help to recover emotionally. Avoid overeating, fast food or refusal of food. Do not try to use alcohol or drugs to dull pain.
- Try to indulge regularly yourself in different ways. For example, a hot bathtub with aromatic oils, massage, reading the book, walk on the quiet, beauty spot or viewing the favourite movie. If to take care to itself and to take timeouts, it is possible to recover from spiritual wounds quicker.
- Understand that the divorce is a process. To rest hands and legs, refusing it, or on the contrary, seeking to finish carelessly quicker it, - it is wrong. Instead pay attention to the most essential things, such as roof over the head, food protection. Then, without hurrying, choose a suitable explanation for events and realize that your emotions will change throughout process of a divorce.
- Find a way to support themselves and set the new tasks. Surround yourself with people with whom you feel better and stronger. Set to yourself the new objects, dream of the future. To dream – does not mean to waste time if it helps to present independent and happy future life. If you need to talk to the specialist in an occasion of the emotional experiences connected with the dissolved marriage make it without hesitation.
- Find positive application for your emotions instead of hiding feelings in themselves, to be constantly in the embittered state or to fall into indifference. Such emotions keep you in the past which was not happy, otherwise you would not get divorced.
- Prepare for regress, unsuccessful days and uncertainty. It is a part of process. Let's themselves take rest when emotions overflow you, but try to adhere to more or less stable day regimen. The privacy from society can positively affect, but if it enters a habit, it is possible to turn into the pathetic hermit.
- If you have children, do not involve them in your experiences. Quietly talk to them about what occurs. Let them know that they will always have both parents and that you will endure these difficult moments. Prepare for problems with behavior and emotional splashes. That the divorce was as less as possible painful, it is better that the psychologist worked with children.