Education of the child - difficult process, parents put all the love and all the knowledge, share what are able to do. The self-assessment will be one of the important and solving in the future qualities. Overestimated or underestimated, will cause the child in life many problems and misunderstanding from people around, the golden mean is important. Many parents deliberately lift a self-assessment to the child, without thinking as he will live further.
What is a self-assessment? The answer is put in the name, the self-assessment is a possibility of an individual to estimate itself. Its formation is put since the childhood, all surrounding people contacting to the child, a drop behind a drop make the contribution. Since the birth the child has no such concept, and it is formed, thanks to adults. The low self-assessment is formed at those children in whose address it is possible to hear continuous reproaches and unpleasant words, very often to them hold up as an example neighbour's children. Badly any is reflected, even the most insignificant, corporal punishment. At such relation the child has a fear and diffidence if the most important people in the world for it - parents are dissatisfied with it then the opinion of people around seems to it similar. The child forms the opinion on himself if I am offended - means, I bad, am not worthy love.
High self-esteem is formed at children who are constantly praised in an occasion and without it. Any offenses of the child come true, broke a toy — it not qualitative, received a bad note — the teacher underestimated.
In this situation the opinion on itself too good, seems to the child that he can do everything and does everything correctly. In this situation it is important to parents to understand that in case of any failure, the child will look for guilty persons even if only he is guilty. Formation of a self-assessment is helped also by society, kindergarten, school. The relation of teachers and tutors is very important, sometimes they, choosing itself favourites, offend other children, ranya their self-assessment. After all the family even if the child did not find support in school remains the main place of formation, he has to find her houses. Try to be the first friends and assistants, if necessary sit down and talk, explain in what the child is not right and as it was worth arriving. It is possible to give examples from life about himself or those people who are familiar to the child. You teach the child to accept criticism adequately, estimating its adequacy, it concerns also various achievements. It is important that the child looked at everything really.