The relations with the mother-in-law – a thing very specific. Some daughters-in-law consider her the family member, others inevitable evil, and the third – a headache which goes the free application to the beloved spouse. It is anyway better to improve the relations with the mother-in-law for the sake of tranquility and the world in family.
Do not try to be pleasant at any cost to mother of your elect, the quiet equal relations – here your initial purpose. Be lovely and polite, do not stir much, reserve a story about the last outbursts for meetings with girlfriends, otherwise there is a risk that this information will become "weapon" in the mother-in-law hands.
Courtesies and pleasant trifles will help to make a good impression and will add pluses to your moneybox. Congratulate the mother-in-law on holidays, from time to time indulge her small gifts and culinary pleasant things.
One of main rules of maintaining good relations with the mother-in-law – live separately the family, and you visit it. If you have no opportunity to get own housing and some time it is necessary to live in the house of parents of the husband, be extremely correct. First, make concessions and try not to break the settled way in this house. You should not remake everything under yourself and to try to become the new hostess.
Refrain from complaints to the husband even if he is not right and the probability of support from the mother-in-law is high. First of all he is her son, and you even if also darling, but all the same the daughter-in-law, perhaps not the first and not the last in her life. It is necessary to praise the mother-in-law husband too it is dosed if she is a woman not silly, then will suspect you of insincerity and self-interest.
Try not to depend on the mother-in-law, for the rendered services, financial aid and education of grandsons from you it will surely be asked sooner or later. And if you after all are dependent on the spouse's parents, be ready to listen submissively to a set of councils and instructive speeches.
Do not incite the husband against the mother-in-law at all and do not express negatively and disrespectfully in her address. Even if the mother-in-law and words kind is not necessary, for the husband she is mother whom he loves and respects. It is not necessary to present the spouse with a choice, otherwise it is possible to lose.
Render the feasible help to the mother-in-law, especially if it already in old age. You should not rush in an extreme and to work as the slave by galleys, but the small help will not damage. If there is an opportunity, it is possible to employ experts for cleaning or repair.