Each person, regardless of a sex, age, the social status, wants to find happiness and to find the love. But as soon as Mendelssohn's march will die down and it seems that here and you found the destiny, the problems spoiling life and poisoning happiness begin to appear. To avoid similar and to build up the strong relationship, it is necessary to understand the causes of problems and the conflicts at first.
The main reasons for emergence of problems, strangely enough, at many people same. And often pass from father to son.
The first and main reason is a lack of the strong relations at parents. Whatever strange this argument seemed, but it is truthful for 100%. If at parents the relationship is built up around children, life or just because already late to change something, then at the child in such family the broken system of values is formed. Having started the family, he automatically transfers this model of the relations to it. Or understanding that so it is wrong to build family, begins to build chaotically own system of values in which life and people around introduce the amendments.From there is the following problem. When young people with the different system of values start a family, without having discussed with the partner what they want to see it, begin to reconstruct each other under themselves. If it is two strong personalities, they begin to battle daily with each other that results in hatred, violence and a divorce. And when morally one is weaker, he just concedes strong and as a result lives constantly suppressed, and the second, in turn, considers that it is so loved, without paying attention to an emotional condition of the partner. From outside it seems that it is good couple, but in their relations there is no love.
One more of the most common causes - maternal love. It seems, the words ""maternal love"" are sacred. Yes, but only when they the main on love of mother for the child. Very often this love is based not on love, and feeling of property, the shattered hopes, dissatisfaction in private life. And then mother begins to get into family of the child, without allowing it to build the life. In desire to attract attention she does not notice that she poisons the son's relations. Also the fact that young mother switches all the attention, tenderness and care to the child can be the cause, having removed towards the husband. The man, trying to return attention of the wife, begins to be jealous of own child. And without having managed to restore the former relations - moves away. The woman begins to take offense - she made nothing bad. So they also continue to live, irritating and taking offense at each other.
To avoid similar problems and to construct the happy relations based on love and mutual respect, it is necessary to build only with the partner the general system of values. And only then the relations will be happy, and nobody will remain forgotten, deprived or offended.