As many scientists are engaged in studying psychology of family! Besides, many books on this subject are written. So, The psychology and psychotherapy of family E. Eydemillera is created especially for those who professionally pursue this science, and, for example, the book by T. Tessina. How to be in couple and to remain free? any person who even does not have special knowledge and skills will understand.
Psychology of the relations in family
Harmonious development of the relations in family, ability to correctly resolve the conflicts it is possible to observe in life not of each couple, members of big family. More than once many heard what later for many years joint life from love remains only one name and its place takes a habit. Is it actually known to family psychologists whom loving couples which seek to save the relations address from year to year. For them the family psychology is an ability not simply to understand the partner, but also to support him. Instead of criticism and infinite brain blast the soulmate surely will become the mastermind, a muse. Of course, it is hard, but all know that over the relations, at whatever stage they were, it is always necessary to work.
Psychology of family and the family relations quite difficult and deep concept demanding hours-long reflections. Main thing here one: for development of harmony, mutual understanding it is important to be able to resolve correctly conflict situations, to daily maintain emotional attachment of each of the family member to each other. If there is not only no emotional, but also spiritual proximity when we cease to be interested as the situation at blessed at work is, we emotionally move away from it. Gradually all those pure feelings which inspire us begin to die away to live and create.
The spiritual otdelennost from each other arises then when one of partners personally grows, develops, and the second not only that does not grow, so also consciously refuses to support the soulmate.
Psychology of marriage and family - crises
Each of us is unique. All of us has characters, abilities, skills and abilities absolutely unlike at each other. Marriage and family – the main thing that is investigated by family psychologists. It is especially important to pay attention to the crises burned throughout family life, the periods when partners in a different way look at each other. If both of them do not manage to cope with this hard stage in their life, unfortunately, marriage breaks up.
- 2 years of marriage. The former passion disappears, love passes into the background. If the child is born in this period, the relations can exchange completely because spouses carry out a new role – learn to be parents.
- 3-4 years. Both partners begin to depend from each other, and it is not about financial side, and about moral. Realizing it, both partners try to become those whom were prior to a wedding. They seek to keep the personal integrity.
- 6-7 years. In this case problems arise in a bed. Often in this period there is relevant a psychology of a divorce and family breakdown. It is the period of adulteries. The adultery can be avoided if to allow the soulmate to feel again desired and favourite.
- 11-13 years. Each psychologist has the explanation for why there is this crisis. In most cases it is considered that for this period the crisis of average age of each of spouses drops out, each of which begins to look at vital values from a different angle.
- 20 years. When baby birds take off from a parental nest, the husband and the wife realize that there is more no that link which united them earlier. Many so are obsessed not with own happiness, and the children that they forget about the partner, his feelings.