When people marry, continually wish them "harmony and love". But there pass years, and some do not have neither that, nor another. And if in one of options the family turns into two strangers of people, then in the second spouses of each other hate.
To leave or remain
The woman is faced by the choice: or to leave the hated husband, or to continue to live with him further. First of all it is necessary to think of correcting a situation. Sometimes the woman is frightened by lack of independence in the material plan. In this case it is necessary to consider current situation as granting an opportunity to realize itself. Very often the woman, having been left without support of the husband, tries to obtain success.
To try to understand itself why so it happened that brought to hatred. If you are able to answer yourself these questions, it is necessary to talk to the husband. Openly, honestly and quietly. Surely without abuse which here will not help in any way but only will aggravate a situation.
The conversation and recognition - are better than silent hatred. Perhaps you will come that just were tired from each other, and then temporary parting will go for the help to your relations. And if not to stick together a crack in the relations at all, then it is necessary to come quietly to the joint decision - how to live further. There are no reasons for the sake of which it is worth remaining with the husband and to hate him further, thereby humiliating themselves. But there is much for the sake of what it is worth trying to revive cordial relations.
To remain for the sake of the child
Remaining with the hated husband for the sake of the child, you push three people on tortures: husband and child. In family where parents live only for the sake of the child, there cannot be comfortable conditions for it. Children very much feel the atmosphere. It is not necessary to sacrifice himself for the sake of the child. It is not necessary to lie to himself and him. The child needs love and where hatred reigns, there is no place of love. Such environment cannot be favorable for development of the child. This life without joy and heat. The child will not tell thanks in the years lived in the atmosphere of hatred. It serves frequent result the crippled children's mentality and whole bunch of complexes. And about children's memoirs needless to say. The child needs parents quiet, happy with life. If it was not succeeded to agree with each other and to begin the relations anew, it is better to disperse. Perhaps it will be temporary parting during which you will understand that you miss the friend the friend. Such cases are not rare and if the family has a chance, parting will help to see it. If you left finally, it is necessary to try to keep the normal relations that the child did not feel thrown. The father has to sees the child, and mother should not it interfere. It is always possible to reach compromise and to provide to the child the happy childhood even in incomplete family. This step also needs to be made for the sake of the child that he felt that it has loving mother and the father.